Wednesday, June 30, 2004
hmm heh heh told you i didn't think a lot okie.. i already said that this song "Don't Tell Me" by Avril Lavigne...actually is about the ger not wanting to have sex with the guy what...
Q: Your new song "Don't Tell Me" is pro-abstinence.
A: It's basically about having respect for yourself and being able to say no. I mean, so many guys try to pressure girls into doing it. Because, I think, 70 percent or 80 percent of girls who've had sex didn't want to. Girls are going through that at a younger age now.
see see LOL i got this information from this Interview
=P
In case you still in doubt.. maybe looking at the lyrics will convince you =X
You held my hand and walked me home,
I know, Why you gave me the kiss
you're something like this, that made me go oh-oh
You wiped my tears, got rid of all my fears
Why did you have to go?
Cause it wasnt enough to take up some of my love, cause a shortage of trust
Did I not tell you, that I'm not like that
you're the one who gives it all away, yeahh oh
Did you think that i was gonna give it up to you, this timeeeee
did you think that there was something i was gonna do then cryyy
don't try to tell me what to do, dont try to tell me what to say
you're better of that way
Don't think that you're charmed in the fact
that you're arm is now around my neck
Won't get you in my pants
I'd have to kick you're ass
and make you never forget
I'm gonna ask you to stop,
Thought I liked you alot
But i'm really upset (really upset)
Get out of my head
Get out of my bed,
yeah, thats what I said
Did I not tell you, that I'm not like that
you're the one who throws it all awaaaaayy
Did you think that i was gonna give it up to you, this timeeeee
did you think that there was something i was gonna do then cryyy
don't try to tell me what to do, dont try to tell me what to say
you're better of that way, yeah
this guilt trip that you put me on won't mess me up,
I've done no wrong, and the thoughts of you and me have gone awayeeayyayyy
Did you think that i was gonna give it up to you, this timeeeee
did you think that there was something i was gonna do then cryyy
don't try to tell me what to do, dont try to tell me what to say
you're better of that way
I'm better of alone anyway
Q: Your new song "Don't Tell Me" is pro-abstinence.
A: It's basically about having respect for yourself and being able to say no. I mean, so many guys try to pressure girls into doing it. Because, I think, 70 percent or 80 percent of girls who've had sex didn't want to. Girls are going through that at a younger age now.
see see LOL i got this information from this Interview
=P
In case you still in doubt.. maybe looking at the lyrics will convince you =X
You held my hand and walked me home,
I know, Why you gave me the kiss
you're something like this, that made me go oh-oh
You wiped my tears, got rid of all my fears
Why did you have to go?
Cause it wasnt enough to take up some of my love, cause a shortage of trust
Did I not tell you, that I'm not like that
you're the one who gives it all away, yeahh oh
Did you think that i was gonna give it up to you, this timeeeee
did you think that there was something i was gonna do then cryyy
don't try to tell me what to do, dont try to tell me what to say
you're better of that way
Don't think that you're charmed in the fact
that you're arm is now around my neck
Won't get you in my pants
I'd have to kick you're ass
and make you never forget
I'm gonna ask you to stop,
Thought I liked you alot
But i'm really upset (really upset)
Get out of my head
Get out of my bed,
yeah, thats what I said
Did I not tell you, that I'm not like that
you're the one who throws it all awaaaaayy
Did you think that i was gonna give it up to you, this timeeeee
did you think that there was something i was gonna do then cryyy
don't try to tell me what to do, dont try to tell me what to say
you're better of that way, yeah
this guilt trip that you put me on won't mess me up,
I've done no wrong, and the thoughts of you and me have gone awayeeayyayyy
Did you think that i was gonna give it up to you, this timeeeee
did you think that there was something i was gonna do then cryyy
don't try to tell me what to do, dont try to tell me what to say
you're better of that way
I'm better of alone anyway
2:45 PM
Monday, June 28, 2004
Hmm just some very meaningful phrases extracted from this article
..
THERE'S a difference between a healthy remembrance of things past and an unhealthy clinging onto what has been.
I suppose people carry excess baggage because they fear the unknown. Harping back to the past, even if it wasn't so great, is more comforting than facing a blank, uncharted future.
But isn't it better to embrace life blithely and unburdened? To plunge into the unknown without constant timorous backward glances?
I'm beginning to realise the wisdom of cliches such as to live and let live, to forgive and forget,
In case you are not a amid reader of the Straits Time.. Sumiko Tan is actually well i would say a very good Columnist working for the Straits Time... I often read her articles ... very interesting and thought provoking =P heh heh ...
..
THERE'S a difference between a healthy remembrance of things past and an unhealthy clinging onto what has been.
I suppose people carry excess baggage because they fear the unknown. Harping back to the past, even if it wasn't so great, is more comforting than facing a blank, uncharted future.
But isn't it better to embrace life blithely and unburdened? To plunge into the unknown without constant timorous backward glances?
I'm beginning to realise the wisdom of cliches such as to live and let live, to forgive and forget,
In case you are not a amid reader of the Straits Time.. Sumiko Tan is actually well i would say a very good Columnist working for the Straits Time... I often read her articles ... very interesting and thought provoking =P heh heh ...
8:47 PM
Pieces Of Me....
On a Monday, I am waiting
Tuesday, I am fading
And by Wednesday, I can't sleep
Then the phone rings, I hear you
And the darkness is a clear view
Cuz you've come to rescue me
Fall... With you, I fall so fast
I can hardly catch my breath, I hope it lasts
Ohhhhh.....
It seems like I can finally rest my head on something real
I like the way that feels
Ohhhhh.......
It's as if you've known me better than I ever knew myself
I love how you can tell
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
I am moody, messy
I get restless, and it's senseless
How you never seem to care
When I'm angry, you listen
When youre happy, it's a mission
And you wont stop 'til I'm there
Fall... Sometimes I fall so fast
Well, I hit that bottom
Crash, you're all I have
Ohhhhh.....
It seems like I can finally rest my head on something real
I like the way that feels
Ohhhhh.....
It's as if you known me better than I ever knew myself
I love how you can tell
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
How do you know everything I'm about to say?
Am I that obvious?
And if it's written on my face...
I hope it never goes away... yeah
On a Monday, I am waiting
And by Tuesday, I am fading into your arms...
So I can breathe
Ohhhhh...........
It seems like I can finally rest my head on something real
I love the way that feels
Ohhhhh.............
It's as if you've know me better than I ever knew myself
I love how you can tell
Ohhhhh....
I love how you can tell
Ohhhhh.......
I love how you can tell
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me...
On a Monday, I am waiting
Tuesday, I am fading
And by Wednesday, I can't sleep
Then the phone rings, I hear you
And the darkness is a clear view
Cuz you've come to rescue me
Fall... With you, I fall so fast
I can hardly catch my breath, I hope it lasts
Ohhhhh.....
It seems like I can finally rest my head on something real
I like the way that feels
Ohhhhh.......
It's as if you've known me better than I ever knew myself
I love how you can tell
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
I am moody, messy
I get restless, and it's senseless
How you never seem to care
When I'm angry, you listen
When youre happy, it's a mission
And you wont stop 'til I'm there
Fall... Sometimes I fall so fast
Well, I hit that bottom
Crash, you're all I have
Ohhhhh.....
It seems like I can finally rest my head on something real
I like the way that feels
Ohhhhh.....
It's as if you known me better than I ever knew myself
I love how you can tell
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
How do you know everything I'm about to say?
Am I that obvious?
And if it's written on my face...
I hope it never goes away... yeah
On a Monday, I am waiting
And by Tuesday, I am fading into your arms...
So I can breathe
Ohhhhh...........
It seems like I can finally rest my head on something real
I love the way that feels
Ohhhhh.............
It's as if you've know me better than I ever knew myself
I love how you can tell
Ohhhhh....
I love how you can tell
Ohhhhh.......
I love how you can tell
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me
All the pieces, pieces, pieces of me...
1:20 PM
Erm anyway for those of you who think you know what's going on in my life... sorry to disappoint u ah =P my life is kinda of secrective i dun post what exactly happens in my life =P i Only give you little bits and parts... so dun come concluding to me you know everything and what is happening cos basically u dun and so far only carrot juice will understand my life cos carrot juice is just so sweet =D and i love carrot juice a lot =P...
Hmmm anyway... lol i should go get some boots.. if i got boots my company will probably get me to do events in pubs =P wow sounds kinda havoc sia lol.. but dun worry i know how to handle things =P Anyway Edmund came around yesterday when i was promoting touche` and i finally get the working relations correct actually i am not under Asia Pacific Breweries...
Okie here is what is exactly is going on:
Adecco first hired me to work for Karen
Karen is working for Asia Pacific Breweries (APB) as a key Accountant or something
Later karen gave my number to Violet Oon Consultants, they are actually a marketing company hired by APB to promote Touche` a new product of APB.
So actually i am working under Violet Oon Consultants hired by APB.
Heh heh yup that's the whole story.
Hmmm anyway... lol i should go get some boots.. if i got boots my company will probably get me to do events in pubs =P wow sounds kinda havoc sia lol.. but dun worry i know how to handle things =P Anyway Edmund came around yesterday when i was promoting touche` and i finally get the working relations correct actually i am not under Asia Pacific Breweries...
Okie here is what is exactly is going on:
Adecco first hired me to work for Karen
Karen is working for Asia Pacific Breweries (APB) as a key Accountant or something
Later karen gave my number to Violet Oon Consultants, they are actually a marketing company hired by APB to promote Touche` a new product of APB.
So actually i am working under Violet Oon Consultants hired by APB.
Heh heh yup that's the whole story.
1:04 PM
Yah fate... on how everything is like supposed to turn out... dun you think life in a way is sometimes very interesting... but i can only say fate comes and goes.... the rest is up to you to decide whether you are going to make things happen or just let them slip through your fingers...and silly humans usually maybe it's the thing about humans when they have the chance they just take it for granted and let them slip it right through their fingers....
Well... this is hmm.. anyway that guy msg me last night saying.... so we r all going to treat whatever happen as a dream.... well.. ya cos obviously you didn't wanted to make things work out.. didn't you... when i had the chance to be with you, you couldn't be bothered less to make things work out... busy? Dun you think that's like a very lame excuse ... you could have just sms me or give a short call to remind me that you like me but no you didn't, obviously you didn't like me and dun give me crap on how you think you do... maybe it's just lust making you desire me so bye bye i guess i was kind to send u a msg hoping we will still be friends even if we dun make it as a couple you dun even know what's love... i Guess too bad then i just find it hard to connect to you emotionally ..
Anyway =).. It all doesn't matter now cos..... i guess we weren't meant to be after all =P and now....actually sometimes i am lucky.... i guess it's all in the fate thing :D i guess this song is really nice... =P
The real me is a southern girl with her Levis on and an open heart
Wish I could say the save the world, like I was super girl
The real me is to laugh all night lying in the grass just talking about love
But lately I've been jaded life got so complicated
I'm still thinking about it almost forgot what it was like
Do you know what it feels like?
Cause with you
I can let my hair down
I can say anything crazy
I know you'll catch me right before I hit the ground
With nothing but a T-shirt on
I never felt so beautiful
Baby as I do now
Now that I'm with you
With you
Now that I'm with you
You speak and it's like a song
And just like that all my walls come down
"you know how i told u i love songs... it is actually something i can't live without....."
It's like a private joke just meant for us to know
I relate to you naturally
Everybody else just fades away
"Do you know it's so true the way i can connect to you..."
Sometimes it's hard to breathe
Just knowing you found me
Cuz I'm still thinking about it almost forgot what it was like
Do you know what love feels like?
Cause with you
I can let my hair down
I can say anything crazy
I know you'll catch me right before I hit the ground
With nothing but a T-shirt on
I never felt so beautiful
Baby as I do now
Now that I'm with you
With you
Come and take me
Love you save me
Like nobody else
Now I can be myself
With you
With you
I can let my hair down
I can say anything crazy
I know you'll catch me right before I hit the ground
With nothing but a T-shirt on
I never felt so beautiful
Baby as I do now (Baby as I do now)
Now that I'm with you
You know i can hear this song over and over again... u make my day ^^!!
" Carrot juice is nice and sweet!! =P "
Well... this is hmm.. anyway that guy msg me last night saying.... so we r all going to treat whatever happen as a dream.... well.. ya cos obviously you didn't wanted to make things work out.. didn't you... when i had the chance to be with you, you couldn't be bothered less to make things work out... busy? Dun you think that's like a very lame excuse ... you could have just sms me or give a short call to remind me that you like me but no you didn't, obviously you didn't like me and dun give me crap on how you think you do... maybe it's just lust making you desire me so bye bye i guess i was kind to send u a msg hoping we will still be friends even if we dun make it as a couple you dun even know what's love... i Guess too bad then i just find it hard to connect to you emotionally ..
Anyway =).. It all doesn't matter now cos..... i guess we weren't meant to be after all =P and now....actually sometimes i am lucky.... i guess it's all in the fate thing :D i guess this song is really nice... =P
The real me is a southern girl with her Levis on and an open heart
Wish I could say the save the world, like I was super girl
The real me is to laugh all night lying in the grass just talking about love
But lately I've been jaded life got so complicated
I'm still thinking about it almost forgot what it was like
Do you know what it feels like?
Cause with you
I can let my hair down
I can say anything crazy
I know you'll catch me right before I hit the ground
With nothing but a T-shirt on
I never felt so beautiful
Baby as I do now
Now that I'm with you
With you
Now that I'm with you
You speak and it's like a song
And just like that all my walls come down
"you know how i told u i love songs... it is actually something i can't live without....."
It's like a private joke just meant for us to know
I relate to you naturally
Everybody else just fades away
"Do you know it's so true the way i can connect to you..."
Sometimes it's hard to breathe
Just knowing you found me
Cuz I'm still thinking about it almost forgot what it was like
Do you know what love feels like?
Cause with you
I can let my hair down
I can say anything crazy
I know you'll catch me right before I hit the ground
With nothing but a T-shirt on
I never felt so beautiful
Baby as I do now
Now that I'm with you
With you
Come and take me
Love you save me
Like nobody else
Now I can be myself
With you
With you
I can let my hair down
I can say anything crazy
I know you'll catch me right before I hit the ground
With nothing but a T-shirt on
I never felt so beautiful
Baby as I do now (Baby as I do now)
Now that I'm with you
You know i can hear this song over and over again... u make my day ^^!!
" Carrot juice is nice and sweet!! =P "
8:45 AM
Friday, June 25, 2004
hmm.... dunno why i dun feel too good.. yah it's just the fats alone.. how come they got such a drastic effect on me... zzzzzz it's like getting so hard to slim down.... how can dun eat.... stomach empty = food ma zzzzz haiz then why i dun exercise leh i also dunno.... but now got work le mah that's like such a lame excuse not to work out lor i can always wake up like 7am to go exercise... why why i always tell my mum i fat then she shove food into my face... sometimes i feel like crying...zzz She dun understand haiz... then how stay away from home ah =S zzz haiz dunno dunno.. why do i feel like such a dumb kid today obsessed with fats =|
2:56 PM
You represent... naivete.
So innocent and trusting... you can be very shy at
times, but it's only because you're not sure
how to act. You give off that "I need to
be protected vibe." Remember that not all
people are good. Being too trusting will get
you easily hurt.
What feeling do you represent?
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hmm.. dunno leh like kinda true =S
2:05 PM
Thursday, June 24, 2004
hmm.. i still dun get it how they resist the temptation of food.... x_x.. i Can't lor.... i am always hungry.. duh fats...I wish i can be anorexic but i can't.. =X Hmm... Anorexic kills
11:01 AM
Wednesday, June 23, 2004
hmm.. this is interesting... today i went for the so called job training. =) It was at braddell road.. and it's cool they has an office apartment. Yah the guy jason was there... the guy who erm was kinda strict on how things should be presented and placed that second day i was working in Great world city.
Mr kamal, the guy i was supposed to meet was kinda young.. i mean i think he was around 30 plus? =X i thought he was like an old old man LOL... then we met up with two other gers before proceeding to the office. And yup they were chIO very Chio LOL i mean the first ger she is call Lynn by the way turns out to be very chatty and she's petite the other ger was call steph.. shes really good looking and super slim.. LOL i felt so erm LOL UGLY THERE x_x. Hmm... anyway i will spare you with the monotonous details.. but most probably i will be working next weekend as well.. sigh =( means next Sunday i can't go out with my lover boy =( LOLOLOLOL relax la just joking =P No one wants me wor...
I just hope everything goes well at work tommorrow i hope i can sell quite a high target.. though they didn't really like pressurise us.. but i think we should be selling like at least two cartons for Saturday and Sunday. Hmm.... Its like if i do a good job, they will keep our profile and stuff and next time whenever Asia Pacific Breweries got any products to reccomend, most likely they call me up =) Let's pray i get an excellent k =P MONEY.. I just feel broke la =P
Okie Just in case you r thinking what my job is supposed to do it's like hmm you know sales =P promote and promote should be alright la i had quite some fun promoting TOuche (pronounced as Too shay) that time at Great World City.Hmm it's like six dollars at the supermarket but i guess at pubs its like more expensive... Touché Champagne Beer 330ml btl $ 13.90
Mr kamal, the guy i was supposed to meet was kinda young.. i mean i think he was around 30 plus? =X i thought he was like an old old man LOL... then we met up with two other gers before proceeding to the office. And yup they were chIO very Chio LOL i mean the first ger she is call Lynn by the way turns out to be very chatty and she's petite the other ger was call steph.. shes really good looking and super slim.. LOL i felt so erm LOL UGLY THERE x_x. Hmm... anyway i will spare you with the monotonous details.. but most probably i will be working next weekend as well.. sigh =( means next Sunday i can't go out with my lover boy =( LOLOLOLOL relax la just joking =P No one wants me wor...
I just hope everything goes well at work tommorrow i hope i can sell quite a high target.. though they didn't really like pressurise us.. but i think we should be selling like at least two cartons for Saturday and Sunday. Hmm.... Its like if i do a good job, they will keep our profile and stuff and next time whenever Asia Pacific Breweries got any products to reccomend, most likely they call me up =) Let's pray i get an excellent k =P MONEY.. I just feel broke la =P
Okie Just in case you r thinking what my job is supposed to do it's like hmm you know sales =P promote and promote should be alright la i had quite some fun promoting TOuche (pronounced as Too shay) that time at Great World City.Hmm it's like six dollars at the supermarket but i guess at pubs its like more expensive... Touché Champagne Beer 330ml btl $ 13.90
9:31 PM
Tuesday, June 22, 2004
流浪者之歌
流浪是牧羊人的方向 晴天阴天或是雨天
总不过问是谁的眼泪 流到最远的地方
九月的微风 吹得我好痛 蒲公英在飞翔
没有了方向 风中的你 轻轻说声要离去
我的天空永不会 永不会放晴
流浪是牧羊人的方向 晴天阴天或是雨天
总不过问是谁的眼泪 流到最远的地方
寂寞的野火 染红了天空
哪里才有我 停留的角落
从此以后 放逐自己 找不回笑容
流浪是牧羊人的方向 晴天阴天或是雨天
别再问此刻多伤悲 就到最远的地方
This song by F.I.R is really sweet =)
流浪是牧羊人的方向 晴天阴天或是雨天
总不过问是谁的眼泪 流到最远的地方
九月的微风 吹得我好痛 蒲公英在飞翔
没有了方向 风中的你 轻轻说声要离去
我的天空永不会 永不会放晴
流浪是牧羊人的方向 晴天阴天或是雨天
总不过问是谁的眼泪 流到最远的地方
寂寞的野火 染红了天空
哪里才有我 停留的角落
从此以后 放逐自己 找不回笑容
流浪是牧羊人的方向 晴天阴天或是雨天
别再问此刻多伤悲 就到最远的地方
This song by F.I.R is really sweet =)
11:06 AM
Monday, June 21, 2004
I will never know
cause you will never show
come on and love me now
come on and love me now
Carnival came by my town today
bright lights from giant wheels
fall on the alleyways
and I'm here
by my door
waiting for you
I will never know
cause you will never show
come on and love me now
come on and love me now
I hear sounds of lovers
barrel organs, mothers
I would like to take you
down there
just to make you mine
in a merry-go-round
Sweet song right....lol i am not having a crush in fact i am like erm what the hell... how can guys do such lame things like practically put me in the cold for one week then come ask me out again.... i mean u were really busy to even give me an sms or call?? Or u making some strategy about mind games.. dun give me that crap. What am i suppose to think i am some door mat? or make it better a door bell..
I thought it was the end of story.. tata, bye bye, "book CLosed" so now what?!! There's like a seris wow... i didn't know... my life is so taken for granted... so i am expected to BE there u know just lay there till u come ard and rub yr feet on me again? SO me right.... always being that nice seriously .... i am being emotional? god u dun know the details so dun give me that crap that i am emotional anyway i am not a guy..all physical... think of me when? YOu r horny? sex? so i am supposed to feel honoured? what the hell? If u thinK u r that great and stuff then go ahead get some ger to be yr willing sex slave i am not just any ger mind you. If u think u can just F*** ard with me .. hELLO WAKE UP?
I WAS JUST BEING DAMN POLITE NOT TO SAY I AM NOT "OH SO CRAZY OVER YOU".
SO wHAT If U have the MOney, the Looks, the Gers Chasing after YOU... A jerk is after all a JErk.. you think i am those kinda ger, SORRY I AM NOT. JUST A NOTE I WUN DIE WITHOUT GUYS LIKE YOU.
cause you will never show
come on and love me now
come on and love me now
Carnival came by my town today
bright lights from giant wheels
fall on the alleyways
and I'm here
by my door
waiting for you
I will never know
cause you will never show
come on and love me now
come on and love me now
I hear sounds of lovers
barrel organs, mothers
I would like to take you
down there
just to make you mine
in a merry-go-round
Sweet song right....lol i am not having a crush in fact i am like erm what the hell... how can guys do such lame things like practically put me in the cold for one week then come ask me out again.... i mean u were really busy to even give me an sms or call?? Or u making some strategy about mind games.. dun give me that crap. What am i suppose to think i am some door mat? or make it better a door bell..
I thought it was the end of story.. tata, bye bye, "book CLosed" so now what?!! There's like a seris wow... i didn't know... my life is so taken for granted... so i am expected to BE there u know just lay there till u come ard and rub yr feet on me again? SO me right.... always being that nice seriously .... i am being emotional? god u dun know the details so dun give me that crap that i am emotional anyway i am not a guy..all physical... think of me when? YOu r horny? sex? so i am supposed to feel honoured? what the hell? If u thinK u r that great and stuff then go ahead get some ger to be yr willing sex slave i am not just any ger mind you. If u think u can just F*** ard with me .. hELLO WAKE UP?
I WAS JUST BEING DAMN POLITE NOT TO SAY I AM NOT "OH SO CRAZY OVER YOU".
SO wHAT If U have the MOney, the Looks, the Gers Chasing after YOU... A jerk is after all a JErk.. you think i am those kinda ger, SORRY I AM NOT. JUST A NOTE I WUN DIE WITHOUT GUYS LIKE YOU.
10:21 PM
Okie that's it i am officially pissed... since so long, after all i thought i could never hate anyone this much again but i guess life is just as unpredictable... maybe after all the while i hadn't been able to forgive him .. i dunno why maybe it's like after all the things i did.. i mean geesh.. and i tot i was over all the shit...
Then now he's like officially chasing gers again i mean yah i dun like him any more PLEASE SERIOUSLY THE SIGHT OF HIM JUST MAKES ME PUKE. DUN SAY HATRED IS SOME KIND OF LOVE IT ISN"T IN THIS CONTEXT .. and i dun mind if he has a new ger and stuff u know whats the f***ing thing that really pisses me off... he uses our break up like some sad story to wat??? gain sympathy from gers?
Please stop using me as a tool. THANK YOU. IF U WANT TO GET YR BLOODY GERS GET THEM USING YR OWN ABILITY AND DUN USE SOME DAMN LAME PAST BREAK UP STORIES TO GET THEM TO BE INTERESTED IN YOU ESPECIALLY WHEN U WERE THE ONE WHO F***ING BREAK WITH ME.THANKS FOR BEING SO F***ING UNDERSTANDING WHEN U BREAK MY HEART THAT TIME. AND GLAD I DIDN'T PATCH BACK WITH YOU.. WHY? COS IT WAS SO DAMN OBVIOUS U JUST NEEDED A GER AS WHAT?? YR GF STATUS? GET A LIFE U LOSER.
And NEo what was it about u met jerks ...I met something worse than a jerk
i wonder what do u call that..
Then now he's like officially chasing gers again i mean yah i dun like him any more PLEASE SERIOUSLY THE SIGHT OF HIM JUST MAKES ME PUKE. DUN SAY HATRED IS SOME KIND OF LOVE IT ISN"T IN THIS CONTEXT .. and i dun mind if he has a new ger and stuff u know whats the f***ing thing that really pisses me off... he uses our break up like some sad story to wat??? gain sympathy from gers?
Please stop using me as a tool. THANK YOU. IF U WANT TO GET YR BLOODY GERS GET THEM USING YR OWN ABILITY AND DUN USE SOME DAMN LAME PAST BREAK UP STORIES TO GET THEM TO BE INTERESTED IN YOU ESPECIALLY WHEN U WERE THE ONE WHO F***ING BREAK WITH ME.THANKS FOR BEING SO F***ING UNDERSTANDING WHEN U BREAK MY HEART THAT TIME. AND GLAD I DIDN'T PATCH BACK WITH YOU.. WHY? COS IT WAS SO DAMN OBVIOUS U JUST NEEDED A GER AS WHAT?? YR GF STATUS? GET A LIFE U LOSER.
And NEo what was it about u met jerks ...I met something worse than a jerk
i wonder what do u call that..
2:51 PM
Friday, June 18, 2004
hmm.... sinful me eating frenCh fries again.....pray for quick recovery to my toe okie? =( If not i will never be able to go jogging and means i am going to accumulate fats and fats urghz..... Anyway eating these fries made me wonder.." who the hell invented these sinful things?"
well... here's what i found..
So how did potatoes come to their present popularity? The generally accepted story is that a French army officer named Parmentier was taken prisoner during the Seven Years War (1756-1763), and ate potatoes as part of his prison diet in Hamburg, Germany. He found that he liked them. After his release, he managed to introduce them to the French court ("Your majesty, the potato. Potato, I have the honour to introduce King Louis XVI and Queen Marie Antoinette. Introductions all the way round.") Marie Antoinette reportedly once wore a potato flower as a corsage. But she decided to take a break from eating cake and so ate potatoes. What the queen did was what everyone did, so the potato became fashionable and entered French cuisine. From France, to the world.
As an indication of the speed of this change in attitude, during the French Revolution, some 25 years later, the royal gardens at Tuileries were turned into potato fields.
By the 1800s, the Irish had come to depend on the potato almost entirely. A fungus spread totally wiped out the crop in the 1840s, leading to the tragic and famous potato famine.
And so we arrive at your question. For also in the 1840s, pomme frites ("fried potatoes") first appeared in Paris. Sadly, we don't know the name of the ingenious chef who first sliced the potato into long slender pieces and fried them. But they were immediately popular, and were sold on the streets of Paris by push-cart vendors.
Frites spread to America where they were called French fried potatoes. You asked how they got their name--pretty obvious, I'd say: they came from France, and they were fried potatoes, so they were called "French fried potatoes." The name was shortened to "french fries" in the 1930s.
hmm... sinful sinful sinful.... how come some gers can get anorexic so easily... i can't seem to get it leh DAMN! =X
well... here's what i found..
So how did potatoes come to their present popularity? The generally accepted story is that a French army officer named Parmentier was taken prisoner during the Seven Years War (1756-1763), and ate potatoes as part of his prison diet in Hamburg, Germany. He found that he liked them. After his release, he managed to introduce them to the French court ("Your majesty, the potato. Potato, I have the honour to introduce King Louis XVI and Queen Marie Antoinette. Introductions all the way round.") Marie Antoinette reportedly once wore a potato flower as a corsage. But she decided to take a break from eating cake and so ate potatoes. What the queen did was what everyone did, so the potato became fashionable and entered French cuisine. From France, to the world.
As an indication of the speed of this change in attitude, during the French Revolution, some 25 years later, the royal gardens at Tuileries were turned into potato fields.
By the 1800s, the Irish had come to depend on the potato almost entirely. A fungus spread totally wiped out the crop in the 1840s, leading to the tragic and famous potato famine.
And so we arrive at your question. For also in the 1840s, pomme frites ("fried potatoes") first appeared in Paris. Sadly, we don't know the name of the ingenious chef who first sliced the potato into long slender pieces and fried them. But they were immediately popular, and were sold on the streets of Paris by push-cart vendors.
Frites spread to America where they were called French fried potatoes. You asked how they got their name--pretty obvious, I'd say: they came from France, and they were fried potatoes, so they were called "French fried potatoes." The name was shortened to "french fries" in the 1930s.
hmm... sinful sinful sinful.... how come some gers can get anorexic so easily... i can't seem to get it leh DAMN! =X
2:03 PM
Foreplay by the Signs
Aries doesn't have time for foreplay.
Taurus keeps going and going and going...
Gemini wants a menage a trois.
Cancer likes it in the hot tub.
Leo buys costumes.
Virgo showers before, during and after.
Libra can't decide whether they want it or not.
Scorpio wants it all day, every day.
Sagittarius does it under the stars.
Capricorn prefers to be on top.
Aquarius likes crowds.
Pisces swoons over the poetry of the act
LOL Under the STARS Nice Leh LOL =PpPpP
Aries doesn't have time for foreplay.
Taurus keeps going and going and going...
Gemini wants a menage a trois.
Cancer likes it in the hot tub.
Leo buys costumes.
Virgo showers before, during and after.
Libra can't decide whether they want it or not.
Scorpio wants it all day, every day.
Sagittarius does it under the stars.
Capricorn prefers to be on top.
Aquarius likes crowds.
Pisces swoons over the poetry of the act
LOL Under the STARS Nice Leh LOL =PpPpP
11:52 AM
Hmmm Just in case you are bored and want some entertainment =P
HorOscOpes
=PpPPp
HorOscOpes
=PpPPp
10:38 AM
Wednesday, June 16, 2004
Busy Busy....
There are many reasons to why people keep themselves busy...
Dun you think it's so true...
whenever there is time to think....
many thoughts start to invade your brain just like that...
whether you like it a not...
Whether it was the past....
Or maybe just the unknown future....
That keeps you up at night....
Or even prevents you from waking up.......
It's scary....
How we are exposed to thoughts....
That we dun even know can slowly take over.....
Everything we used to have trust in.....
Everything we used to have hope in...
Everything we thought we can rely on....
*ouch*....
There are many reasons to why people keep themselves busy...
Dun you think it's so true...
whenever there is time to think....
many thoughts start to invade your brain just like that...
whether you like it a not...
Whether it was the past....
Or maybe just the unknown future....
That keeps you up at night....
Or even prevents you from waking up.......
It's scary....
How we are exposed to thoughts....
That we dun even know can slowly take over.....
Everything we used to have trust in.....
Everything we used to have hope in...
Everything we thought we can rely on....
*ouch*....
3:13 PM
AH LOL yet another quiz
.. yah i am addicted LOL..
Are YOu a Player?
well i am a ???!!!!
Champion Dater
You know how to manhandle a few hearts at a time and have fun while still leaving room for things to get serious. "The girl who's a player feels anxious when she realizes she has feelings for someone, but you've found a way to navigate through them," says Shielagh Shusta-Hochberg, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in New York City. "You protect yourself emotionally by not letting yourself get hung up on a guy too quickly, but you're still willing to take a chance on him and see where it goes."
Bottom line is, you like taking the cautiously optimistic approach to dating. You'll invite him to a work event or stick around his place for a little while the morning after, but you keep it casual. That way, if you two fizzle, you won't be ruining your eyeliner over it. "You're confident enough to tolerate the possibility of rejection if it doesn't work out," says Shusta-Hochberg. There are too many other guys worth trying.
Really? O.o?? i Just dun want to suffer any more LOL
.. yah i am addicted LOL..
Are YOu a Player?
well i am a ???!!!!
Champion Dater
You know how to manhandle a few hearts at a time and have fun while still leaving room for things to get serious. "The girl who's a player feels anxious when she realizes she has feelings for someone, but you've found a way to navigate through them," says Shielagh Shusta-Hochberg, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in New York City. "You protect yourself emotionally by not letting yourself get hung up on a guy too quickly, but you're still willing to take a chance on him and see where it goes."
Bottom line is, you like taking the cautiously optimistic approach to dating. You'll invite him to a work event or stick around his place for a little while the morning after, but you keep it casual. That way, if you two fizzle, you won't be ruining your eyeliner over it. "You're confident enough to tolerate the possibility of rejection if it doesn't work out," says Shusta-Hochberg. There are too many other guys worth trying.
Really? O.o?? i Just dun want to suffer any more LOL
11:04 AM
Erm well...
yah i did something finally last night...after all maybe i guess i just couldn't just let the past be gone away and somehow my past feelings were supressed??
yeah i wrote out everything on my dairy.... well about seven pages.. of course most were brief... at least i mean i faced my past feelings those i tried to supress and like carry it away with a smile... i guess it was kinda silly thinking i could make everything go away as long as i dun really go think about them ... that's really dumb...
Anyway seriously i was evaluating what i wrote last night ... i sort of was happy i guess it's just life the experiences i had i mean no one could have these experiences i had.... maybe these are the kind of things that are most precious to you... the love, pain, hurt, laughter.... each relationship had its differences and its similarities but they are the kind of things that can never be bought or found anywhere ever... no one can ever have your experience... hmmm maybe that's what the movie " Eternal SUnshine of the Spotless mind" was trying to bring across... this message... memories and experiences they are the most precious things one can ever have... and really i kind of agree...
It's not that i am missing my ex or whatever i mean the past is nice but i rather they be kept the past =) life goes on ... we all grow up...
yah i did something finally last night...after all maybe i guess i just couldn't just let the past be gone away and somehow my past feelings were supressed??
yeah i wrote out everything on my dairy.... well about seven pages.. of course most were brief... at least i mean i faced my past feelings those i tried to supress and like carry it away with a smile... i guess it was kinda silly thinking i could make everything go away as long as i dun really go think about them ... that's really dumb...
Anyway seriously i was evaluating what i wrote last night ... i sort of was happy i guess it's just life the experiences i had i mean no one could have these experiences i had.... maybe these are the kind of things that are most precious to you... the love, pain, hurt, laughter.... each relationship had its differences and its similarities but they are the kind of things that can never be bought or found anywhere ever... no one can ever have your experience... hmmm maybe that's what the movie " Eternal SUnshine of the Spotless mind" was trying to bring across... this message... memories and experiences they are the most precious things one can ever have... and really i kind of agree...
It's not that i am missing my ex or whatever i mean the past is nice but i rather they be kept the past =) life goes on ... we all grow up...
10:51 AM
Erm well this is FUnny lol and Well maybe there's a certain truth to it...
8 Hints He's a Player
BY RIANN SMITH
How to tell if he likes to spread his, uh, seed around
He envied Alex from The Bachelor just a little too much.
He has four toothbrushes in his bathroom, and all but one are pastel.
He explains that all the girls in his vacation photos are "friends."
He committed your number to memory without even having to write it down.
Instead of sweets, his candy jar is filled with flavored condoms.
He can't walk through a room full of women without lifting up his shirt and rubbing his abs.
There's a lava lamp/camcorder/massage-oil collection by his bed.
His pager goes off more times in a night than a doctor's does in a week.
8 Hints He's a Player
BY RIANN SMITH
How to tell if he likes to spread his, uh, seed around
He envied Alex from The Bachelor just a little too much.
He has four toothbrushes in his bathroom, and all but one are pastel.
He explains that all the girls in his vacation photos are "friends."
He committed your number to memory without even having to write it down.
Instead of sweets, his candy jar is filled with flavored condoms.
He can't walk through a room full of women without lifting up his shirt and rubbing his abs.
There's a lava lamp/camcorder/massage-oil collection by his bed.
His pager goes off more times in a night than a doctor's does in a week.
10:40 AM
Tuesday, June 15, 2004
Kissing by the Signs
Wondering how to satisfy your lover's ardent feelings? Keep reading for insight into the passionate nature of the Signs and then take the Kissing Style Quiz to discover what your liplocks reveal about you and your romantic destiny!
Aries
Your kisses are quick and passionate fits of lustful pleasure that are there and then gone.
Taurus
Your kisses linger; they are deliberate, heartfelt and they can go on and on and on…
Gemini
Your kisses are interrupted by spasms of giggles, smiles and funny observations.
Cancer
Your kisses are warm and tender, and you never want to let them go.
Leo
Your kisses are wild and uninhibited, biting and clawing; you expect applause for your performance.
Virgo
Your kisses are so subtle and tidy, your lover only notices them once you've finished.
Libra
You're too busy worrying about your breath to really get into your kisses.
Scorpio
You skip the kiss and get to straight to … whatever comes next for you.
Sagittarius
Your kisses are surprising, spontaneous affairs that leave the kissed wanting more.
Capricorn
Your kisses are intense moments of sublime relief from the stress of your day.
Aquarius
Your kisses are wet and messy, and you tend to keep your eyes open.
Pisces
Your kisses are starry-eyed, amorous and long-lasting.
Wondering how to satisfy your lover's ardent feelings? Keep reading for insight into the passionate nature of the Signs and then take the Kissing Style Quiz to discover what your liplocks reveal about you and your romantic destiny!
Aries
Your kisses are quick and passionate fits of lustful pleasure that are there and then gone.
Taurus
Your kisses linger; they are deliberate, heartfelt and they can go on and on and on…
Gemini
Your kisses are interrupted by spasms of giggles, smiles and funny observations.
Cancer
Your kisses are warm and tender, and you never want to let them go.
Leo
Your kisses are wild and uninhibited, biting and clawing; you expect applause for your performance.
Virgo
Your kisses are so subtle and tidy, your lover only notices them once you've finished.
Libra
You're too busy worrying about your breath to really get into your kisses.
Scorpio
You skip the kiss and get to straight to … whatever comes next for you.
Sagittarius
Your kisses are surprising, spontaneous affairs that leave the kissed wanting more.
Capricorn
Your kisses are intense moments of sublime relief from the stress of your day.
Aquarius
Your kisses are wet and messy, and you tend to keep your eyes open.
Pisces
Your kisses are starry-eyed, amorous and long-lasting.
10:11 PM
OKie Okie this is practically some sick joke of yours right GOd... how is it when u always so busy then everyone starts to call u to go out and then comes to this point where u really want to go out but no one is ard for u to go out with.....
AND DUH he asked me why i no go out... gessh now what. pple see me as some gal with no life that's just so great...I am just damn suay Okie..... i keep asking my friends but no one seems avilable then what can i do i already told u i hate it here... all my friends are like so far away urghz...i seriously miss the times when i can just call Shu xin though most of the time she did the calling to tell me go out and jog...everything was so fun and easy, one call we all fly out.. nowdays leh i feel like a hermit this is so great man.....
I have already read so many bloody articles about men... and seen so many animes.. and had such long chats with friends on phone... so what else can i do damn maybe i should have gone out with the alien to find job zzz beats me rotting now.. seriously i want to go jog.. when is my bloody toe nail ever going to come out UrgHZ..
i tot i got so many friends.... but... ARGHZ.
AND DUH he asked me why i no go out... gessh now what. pple see me as some gal with no life that's just so great...I am just damn suay Okie..... i keep asking my friends but no one seems avilable then what can i do i already told u i hate it here... all my friends are like so far away urghz...i seriously miss the times when i can just call Shu xin though most of the time she did the calling to tell me go out and jog...everything was so fun and easy, one call we all fly out.. nowdays leh i feel like a hermit this is so great man.....
I have already read so many bloody articles about men... and seen so many animes.. and had such long chats with friends on phone... so what else can i do damn maybe i should have gone out with the alien to find job zzz beats me rotting now.. seriously i want to go jog.. when is my bloody toe nail ever going to come out UrgHZ..
i tot i got so many friends.... but... ARGHZ.
5:29 PM
Yup Yup another Quiz
=P this can go on and on =P Maybe life isn't that bad after all =P
Are yOu fuN to Be with?
Good-Times Gal
Your definition of fun isn't pushing yourself to the limit but finding pleasurable ways to unwind. For instance, you'll cut out of work early and hit a party with coworkers after a rough day, but you don't go overboard, dance with every guy in the joint and wind up missing work the next day to recover. "You've achieved a sense of balance," says Cameron Tuttle, author of The Bad Girl's Guide to the Party Life. "You know when it's important to get out of your serious mind-set and let loose, even if you're feeling stressed or worried about something. You also know when it's wise to spend quality time by yourself on the couch."
Similarly, you don't feel like you need to prove to everyone what a fun chick you are. If skydiving sounds less than enjoyable, you're not about to free-fall just to impress your date. Still, you're flexible enough to step outside of your comfort zone occasionally. Because of your mix of charisma and calm, both friends and suitors find you so damn enchanting to be around.
=P this can go on and on =P Maybe life isn't that bad after all =P
Are yOu fuN to Be with?
Good-Times Gal
Your definition of fun isn't pushing yourself to the limit but finding pleasurable ways to unwind. For instance, you'll cut out of work early and hit a party with coworkers after a rough day, but you don't go overboard, dance with every guy in the joint and wind up missing work the next day to recover. "You've achieved a sense of balance," says Cameron Tuttle, author of The Bad Girl's Guide to the Party Life. "You know when it's important to get out of your serious mind-set and let loose, even if you're feeling stressed or worried about something. You also know when it's wise to spend quality time by yourself on the couch."
Similarly, you don't feel like you need to prove to everyone what a fun chick you are. If skydiving sounds less than enjoyable, you're not about to free-fall just to impress your date. Still, you're flexible enough to step outside of your comfort zone occasionally. Because of your mix of charisma and calm, both friends and suitors find you so damn enchanting to be around.
3:08 PM
LOL.. here's another test
for the ladies =P
Just How sexy Are you? *kinky KinKy* LOL
yeah i am.....
Sufficiently Sexy
You tend to engage men more with your personality and confidence than with your looks. Not that you don't care about your appearance. You do. But your style is more casual and classy than dressed-to-impress. Men feel comfortable around you, probably because they can tell how comfortable you are with yourself. You draw them in without overwhelming them. That's great, but don't be afraid to act alluring sometimes, too -- not in a trashy way but, rather, by doing your best Sharon Stone impersonation (and we don't mean her character in Basic Instinct). As long as you know when to draw the line and let men see and appreciate your other (nonphysical) qualities, it can be fun to play up your sexuality.
haa haa dunno =P
for the ladies =P
Just How sexy Are you? *kinky KinKy* LOL
yeah i am.....
Sufficiently Sexy
You tend to engage men more with your personality and confidence than with your looks. Not that you don't care about your appearance. You do. But your style is more casual and classy than dressed-to-impress. Men feel comfortable around you, probably because they can tell how comfortable you are with yourself. You draw them in without overwhelming them. That's great, but don't be afraid to act alluring sometimes, too -- not in a trashy way but, rather, by doing your best Sharon Stone impersonation (and we don't mean her character in Basic Instinct). As long as you know when to draw the line and let men see and appreciate your other (nonphysical) qualities, it can be fun to play up your sexuality.
haa haa dunno =P
2:49 PM
Dating Quizzes
Are you sabatoging your love life?
CHeck it out here
My results----
Dream Date
Your social calendar should be booked solid. When it comes to dating, you know how important it is to go out, be seen and give off a positive attitude, all of which helps draw guys to you. Not to mention your confidence and take-action attitude, which not only attract men, they make you feel good too. And when you're on a date, you're careful to offer just enough information about yourself to keep him interested without spilling your life story (that can come later). Plus, you show plenty of interest in his life without acting like a love-struck groupie. But it’s clear from your confident approach to dating that your life does not revolve around men. You know how important it is to spend time with friends and to pursue your own interests and hobbies. If attending a lecture by your favorite writer or taking your favorite exercise class just happens to result in your meeting a new man, all the better. No doubt, you do all this for your own happiness -- but it also makes you a better catch! How convenient.
WAHahaahahahaha =P LOL
Are you sabatoging your love life?
CHeck it out here
My results----
Dream Date
Your social calendar should be booked solid. When it comes to dating, you know how important it is to go out, be seen and give off a positive attitude, all of which helps draw guys to you. Not to mention your confidence and take-action attitude, which not only attract men, they make you feel good too. And when you're on a date, you're careful to offer just enough information about yourself to keep him interested without spilling your life story (that can come later). Plus, you show plenty of interest in his life without acting like a love-struck groupie. But it’s clear from your confident approach to dating that your life does not revolve around men. You know how important it is to spend time with friends and to pursue your own interests and hobbies. If attending a lecture by your favorite writer or taking your favorite exercise class just happens to result in your meeting a new man, all the better. No doubt, you do all this for your own happiness -- but it also makes you a better catch! How convenient.
WAHahaahahahaha =P LOL
2:35 PM
Erm well i am not trying to be a love guru or trying to get a PHD to understanding men but well.... it's just so interesting to learn about humans especially the opposite sex =P Neo Neo here's some advice =P
10 Traits Men Look for in a GirlfriendBy Francesca Di Meglio
Our mission: To find out exactly what men are looking for in a good girlfriend. Impossible? Not exactly. We simply turned to Lisa Daily, syndicated relationship columnist and author of Stop Getting Dumped, who promises to help readers find and marry "the one" in three years or less. Daily followed her own advice and married her dream man, who proposed at the top of the Eiffel Tower after a six-month courtship. Now, she is determined to help other single gals do the same. A dating guru, Daily interviewed -- and continues to do so -- hundreds of bachelors to find out what makes a woman marriage material in this day and age. Here, Daily dishes about the 10 traits every man is looking for in a serious girlfriend:
1. She has a life of her own -- and it's pretty good to boot. Ladies, this means that you take care of yourself, pay attention to your personal style and find time to hang with your fabulous friends and family. You seek adventure by traveling. And you take in life's pleasures -- from indulging in dessert to walking through the park on a sunny day. "You don't expect your boyfriend to be your entire existence," says Daily. In other words, you're not waiting for some man to show up, so you can get your "real life" started.
2. She never makes the first move. This issue has been debated to death, and there is no true consensus. But Daily says that she strongly believes women should never, ever pursue a man. Instead, she suggests waiting for the man to initiate and plan dates. Her reasoning: If the woman is always the one calling, she will never know if he is really interested in her or if it's just convenient for him. She may find herself questioning the relationship every step of the way. Men simply aren't programmed to think like that and therefore are better suited to the chase, Daily says.
3. She is sexy without being trampy. This means something different at the beginning of the relationship than it does down the road, Daily says. In the beginning of courtship, a woman should refrain from making any comments that are overtly sexual. She also flirts by using nonsexual touch like placing her hand on his forearm or even the knee but only briefly. When the relationship gets more serious, and presumably more intimate, sexual touch and public displays of affection are more appropriate. At this point, it's okay to play footsie under the table.
4. She waits to have sex. Yes, the sexual revolution arrived long ago and few people expect a "pure white bride" nowadays. But sex is still a pretty big step for couples. Daily says that many women don't even realize just how much sex changes the dynamics of a relationship. When women have sex, they release a hormone called oxytocin (also referred to as "the cuddle hormone"), which some scientific researchers believe makes women feel extra warm and fuzzy for their sex partners. Daily warns that if women do the deed too soon, they might make too much of a relationship that barely ever existed outside of the bedroom. When you inflate the significance of a relationship, the man often bolts. Daily's advice is to wait at least one month into the relationship before having sex with your new man.
5. She does little things to show she cares. Daily has one friend who noticed that her traveling salesman boyfriend never had time to get his shirts washed, so he would just go out and buy new ones. Her friend started to drop off his laundry at the dry cleaners once a week. Daily herself cooks for her husband. "It's as if he doesn't even know where the kitchen is," she says. "But that's not to say that he starves when I'm out of town." No, you do not have to turn into June Cleaver. The bottom line is that you should want to do the little things that let him know you care and you are paying attention to his individual needs. And he should do the same for you. Daily boasts that her man scrapes the ice off her windshield on cold winter mornings!
6. She should be her boyfriend's best wingman -- err, wing woman. Help him to look good in front of the boss, advises Daily. Laugh at his jokes and help him shine when it is important. Of course, again, he should do the same for you.
7. She never turns on the pressure. This one is important. Men have a distinct aversion to any sort of pressure, says Daily. Therefore, women should avoid calling and/or emailing him many times during the day or dropping hints about the future. In fact, keep the dreaded M-word (marriage) out of your vocabulary all together. "Men don't want to constantly take the pulse of a relationship," says Daily. "They would rather just enjoy it."
8. She does not take any crap -- from anyone. A good woman never accepts bad behavior. Guys respect women with whom they can't get away with anything. If he knows there's a penalty -- like getting thrown to the curb -- for a serious violation like cheating, he'll respect you more, and he will be far less likely to do it. You should also never even bother to date married men, those who already have girlfriends or anyone who verbally or physically threatens or abuses you. Period.
9. A good woman always chooses a good man. That means that you should look for someone who is honest and dependable. He has to treat you right. If he says he is going to be somewhere, he is there. Chivalry is not dead, by the way. "Good manners are a deeper window into what kind of man he truly is," Daily says. You should also have compatible views on money (which is the number one thing couples fight about). Even though they say opposites attract, savers should think twice before shacking up with wild spenders.
10. She knows that love is the biggest part of the mating equation. Just how does a good woman know that she has found that crazy-for-you, toe-curling relationship? Daily says that some women have an "a-ha" moment, while love simply sneaks up on the rest. "I believe the feeling includes a unique sense of comfort and acceptance and the feeling that someone else's happiness is as important to you as your own," Daily says. "A certain amount of toe curling is key as well."
:D
10 Traits Men Look for in a GirlfriendBy Francesca Di Meglio
Our mission: To find out exactly what men are looking for in a good girlfriend. Impossible? Not exactly. We simply turned to Lisa Daily, syndicated relationship columnist and author of Stop Getting Dumped, who promises to help readers find and marry "the one" in three years or less. Daily followed her own advice and married her dream man, who proposed at the top of the Eiffel Tower after a six-month courtship. Now, she is determined to help other single gals do the same. A dating guru, Daily interviewed -- and continues to do so -- hundreds of bachelors to find out what makes a woman marriage material in this day and age. Here, Daily dishes about the 10 traits every man is looking for in a serious girlfriend:
1. She has a life of her own -- and it's pretty good to boot. Ladies, this means that you take care of yourself, pay attention to your personal style and find time to hang with your fabulous friends and family. You seek adventure by traveling. And you take in life's pleasures -- from indulging in dessert to walking through the park on a sunny day. "You don't expect your boyfriend to be your entire existence," says Daily. In other words, you're not waiting for some man to show up, so you can get your "real life" started.
2. She never makes the first move. This issue has been debated to death, and there is no true consensus. But Daily says that she strongly believes women should never, ever pursue a man. Instead, she suggests waiting for the man to initiate and plan dates. Her reasoning: If the woman is always the one calling, she will never know if he is really interested in her or if it's just convenient for him. She may find herself questioning the relationship every step of the way. Men simply aren't programmed to think like that and therefore are better suited to the chase, Daily says.
3. She is sexy without being trampy. This means something different at the beginning of the relationship than it does down the road, Daily says. In the beginning of courtship, a woman should refrain from making any comments that are overtly sexual. She also flirts by using nonsexual touch like placing her hand on his forearm or even the knee but only briefly. When the relationship gets more serious, and presumably more intimate, sexual touch and public displays of affection are more appropriate. At this point, it's okay to play footsie under the table.
4. She waits to have sex. Yes, the sexual revolution arrived long ago and few people expect a "pure white bride" nowadays. But sex is still a pretty big step for couples. Daily says that many women don't even realize just how much sex changes the dynamics of a relationship. When women have sex, they release a hormone called oxytocin (also referred to as "the cuddle hormone"), which some scientific researchers believe makes women feel extra warm and fuzzy for their sex partners. Daily warns that if women do the deed too soon, they might make too much of a relationship that barely ever existed outside of the bedroom. When you inflate the significance of a relationship, the man often bolts. Daily's advice is to wait at least one month into the relationship before having sex with your new man.
5. She does little things to show she cares. Daily has one friend who noticed that her traveling salesman boyfriend never had time to get his shirts washed, so he would just go out and buy new ones. Her friend started to drop off his laundry at the dry cleaners once a week. Daily herself cooks for her husband. "It's as if he doesn't even know where the kitchen is," she says. "But that's not to say that he starves when I'm out of town." No, you do not have to turn into June Cleaver. The bottom line is that you should want to do the little things that let him know you care and you are paying attention to his individual needs. And he should do the same for you. Daily boasts that her man scrapes the ice off her windshield on cold winter mornings!
6. She should be her boyfriend's best wingman -- err, wing woman. Help him to look good in front of the boss, advises Daily. Laugh at his jokes and help him shine when it is important. Of course, again, he should do the same for you.
7. She never turns on the pressure. This one is important. Men have a distinct aversion to any sort of pressure, says Daily. Therefore, women should avoid calling and/or emailing him many times during the day or dropping hints about the future. In fact, keep the dreaded M-word (marriage) out of your vocabulary all together. "Men don't want to constantly take the pulse of a relationship," says Daily. "They would rather just enjoy it."
8. She does not take any crap -- from anyone. A good woman never accepts bad behavior. Guys respect women with whom they can't get away with anything. If he knows there's a penalty -- like getting thrown to the curb -- for a serious violation like cheating, he'll respect you more, and he will be far less likely to do it. You should also never even bother to date married men, those who already have girlfriends or anyone who verbally or physically threatens or abuses you. Period.
9. A good woman always chooses a good man. That means that you should look for someone who is honest and dependable. He has to treat you right. If he says he is going to be somewhere, he is there. Chivalry is not dead, by the way. "Good manners are a deeper window into what kind of man he truly is," Daily says. You should also have compatible views on money (which is the number one thing couples fight about). Even though they say opposites attract, savers should think twice before shacking up with wild spenders.
10. She knows that love is the biggest part of the mating equation. Just how does a good woman know that she has found that crazy-for-you, toe-curling relationship? Daily says that some women have an "a-ha" moment, while love simply sneaks up on the rest. "I believe the feeling includes a unique sense of comfort and acceptance and the feeling that someone else's happiness is as important to you as your own," Daily says. "A certain amount of toe curling is key as well."
:D
2:21 PM
Monday, June 14, 2004
Okie after posting tons of things about men here.. my main reason is to help confused gers get over the ridge.. letting them know there is actually still hope to get the guy u want Okie... not that i am guy crazy or anything... but the actions of guys have left me so perplexed... and since i came across all these info i guess it's good to share the information... :D
10:52 PM
I JUst find this all so Yummy haa haa =P Neo U gotta read all this stuff =P
What He Says When You're Dating
page 2 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
An at-a-glance guide to his love talk:
A slew of research has established that men and women use language in different ways. For women, talk is the glue that holds relationships together. To men, conversation is a means, not an end. They don't even like talking to each other that much -- two guys can watch a game in silence for four hours and walk away feeling they've bonded. When men do use words, it's primarily doublespeak to stay on top. Here's how to make sense of the favorite phrases he uses for different stages of your union:
When You're Dating
He says: So maybe we could get together or something?
He means: I think you're really hot and want to ask you out, but I'm too chicken to say so
He says: Nothing about seeing you again
He means: His mojo wasn't rising
He says: You're a really good person
He means: You'll never see him again
He says: Let's be friends
He means: You're not my type, but could you set me up with your hot friend?
He says: I'll call you
He means: I really mean to call but I'm scared you'll say yes, we'll go out and it will be a letdown. Or worse, what if it's not? Do I want to go through all the hassle of dating? Get married? Have kids? Aaahhhh!
He says: We're dating
He means: We've spent at least five nights together, at least one of which has ended in sexual contact. But in no way are we exclusive
He says: We're seeing each other
He means: It's down to you and one other woman
He says: I think we should date exclusively
He means: I'm scared that if I don't make things more permanent, you'll date someone else
What He Says When He Wants Sex
page 3 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
He says: This is our third date, isn't it?
He says: Is it warm out or just me?
He says: What time do you go to work in the morning?
He says: You think it's true what they say about oysters?
He means: I WANT SEX
He says (in the middle of a great orgasm): I love you
He means: I love that incredible thing you are doing with your finger/tongue/body right now
He says (immediately after making love): It'll be great to show you the house I grew up in (or anything else that smacks of the future)
He means: Are you thinking about your ex and how much better he was than me?
He says: We haven't spoken for ages and I've been thinking about you
He means: I haven't gotten laid in almost three months
He says: I'm not looking to get serious
He means: I just want a little nookie
He says: How many guys have you been with?
He means: I'm the best, right?
What He Says When He's Serious
page 4 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
He says: I really like you
He means: I think I am falling in love but if I say that word, there is no going back
He says (in the middle of a date): It'll be great to show you the house I grew up in (or anything else that smacks of the future)
He means: See Above
He says: "Girlfriend" and he's not doing a Ru Paul imitation
He means: You've made him breakfast, he fixed your car and his buddies aren't allowed to come on to you
He says: Nothing's wrong. I'm fine
He means: God, I know you want to talk about my day and all my interrelationships with my colleagues and boss and the guy who drives my bus, but I am at home now and I just want to drink 10 beers, eat a bag of chips for dinner and zone out
He says: Maybe we need to slow down
He means: Maybe you need to slow down
He says: I don't know what I want
He means: I don't want you
He says: I need some space
He means: I'm about this close to dumping you but I haven't worked up the nerve yet
He says: You're an amazing woman
He means: You're an amazing woman
He says: I love you
He means: You make me incredibly happy whenever we are together. I think you may be The One.
What He Hears When You Speak
page 5 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
Men don't always hear everything you're saying, which means he's not always getting your message:
You say (after being introduced): Do you know this band?
He hears: I want you now
You say: What do you do?
He hears: Are you making enough money to make you marriage material?
You say: My ex is a crazy stalker who won't stop calling me. He scares me
He hears: I'm still in love with my ex
You say: What are we doing Saturday night?
He hears: I want all your time for the rest of your life
You say (after making love): That was really nice
He hears: That was the best sex of my life. Let's do it again!
Top Lies He'll Tell You
page 6 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
Be wary, if he says any of the following to you:
But I tried to call
I didn't get the message
I didn't notice what she looked like
Sex isn't the most important thing
I'll be careful
We'll talk about it later
I'm not mad
I could fall in love with you in a minute (wait a minute and ask him how he feels now)
Learning to Talk Just Like Him
page 7 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
How to talk to a man so he understands you:
Men can only take directions one at a time. So, if you want him to go into the kitchen and get you a cup of tea, make it a two-part request (this also applies to when you are in bed with him).
When men bother to use words, it's to inspire action (whereas women communicate to bond). So if a guy insults another guy, he automatically thinks he wants to fight. And if you say you like his shirt, he thinks, "Cool -- she wants to jump my bones!"
University of Houston psychologists investigating why men keep things bottled up found it was to maintain power in a relationship -- when they don't talk, their partner is left guessing. You do the same and he'll be putty in your hands.
Men don't want to talk about the relationship. They just want to do it (in his mind, if he didn't love you, he'd leave). Here's how he thinks: "If we need to talk about the relationship, it must be broken. If it's broken, it means it's doomed. I'm outta here."
A man will say, "I'm fine," even when being tortured by Zulu warriors. It's in his nature not to reveal weakness because that betrays vulnerability, which comes off as lack of status, according to research by evolutionary psychologist David Buss. In short, he's worried you'll think he's a weed if he can't solve his problems without his Superwoman girlfriend coming to his aid.
How to Know He Loves You
page 8 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
There are certain words his tongue seems to trip over -- like "girlfriend," "love" and "commitment." But since men are action-driven, it's really more important what he does than what he says.You know your man really loves you if he:
Lets you drive his car (especially his new SUV)
Assumes you're spending the weekend together
Introduces you to his friends
Stops wearing his "If you're not wasted, the day is" T-shirt, because he knows you hate it
Calls for absolutely no reason
Wants to talk after sex
Things He Never Wants to Hear
page 9 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
Here's what he really doesn't want to hear from you (and probably won't hear anyway):
Honey, we have to talk. No, YOU have to talk -- and talk and talk and talk
What are you thinking about?: His feelings, like his answers, will be simple. So if you are lying in postcoital comfort and he answers, "Pizza," he really means he is thinking about pizza and not that you have skin that resembles pizza or you look like you've eaten one too many pies in your life
Do you think that girl is pretty?: He thinks that if he even hesitates to say no, it will kill his chances of sex that night -- or any other night
I want to get married: He already assumes this is what you want, he just doesn't want to hear it. So you only have to notify him if this is NOT the case
How do I look -- honestly?: Honestly, you look wonderful to him. That's why he's with you
What He Says When You're Dating
page 2 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
An at-a-glance guide to his love talk:
A slew of research has established that men and women use language in different ways. For women, talk is the glue that holds relationships together. To men, conversation is a means, not an end. They don't even like talking to each other that much -- two guys can watch a game in silence for four hours and walk away feeling they've bonded. When men do use words, it's primarily doublespeak to stay on top. Here's how to make sense of the favorite phrases he uses for different stages of your union:
When You're Dating
He says: So maybe we could get together or something?
He means: I think you're really hot and want to ask you out, but I'm too chicken to say so
He says: Nothing about seeing you again
He means: His mojo wasn't rising
He says: You're a really good person
He means: You'll never see him again
He says: Let's be friends
He means: You're not my type, but could you set me up with your hot friend?
He says: I'll call you
He means: I really mean to call but I'm scared you'll say yes, we'll go out and it will be a letdown. Or worse, what if it's not? Do I want to go through all the hassle of dating? Get married? Have kids? Aaahhhh!
He says: We're dating
He means: We've spent at least five nights together, at least one of which has ended in sexual contact. But in no way are we exclusive
He says: We're seeing each other
He means: It's down to you and one other woman
He says: I think we should date exclusively
He means: I'm scared that if I don't make things more permanent, you'll date someone else
What He Says When He Wants Sex
page 3 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
He says: This is our third date, isn't it?
He says: Is it warm out or just me?
He says: What time do you go to work in the morning?
He says: You think it's true what they say about oysters?
He means: I WANT SEX
He says (in the middle of a great orgasm): I love you
He means: I love that incredible thing you are doing with your finger/tongue/body right now
He says (immediately after making love): It'll be great to show you the house I grew up in (or anything else that smacks of the future)
He means: Are you thinking about your ex and how much better he was than me?
He says: We haven't spoken for ages and I've been thinking about you
He means: I haven't gotten laid in almost three months
He says: I'm not looking to get serious
He means: I just want a little nookie
He says: How many guys have you been with?
He means: I'm the best, right?
What He Says When He's Serious
page 4 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
He says: I really like you
He means: I think I am falling in love but if I say that word, there is no going back
He says (in the middle of a date): It'll be great to show you the house I grew up in (or anything else that smacks of the future)
He means: See Above
He says: "Girlfriend" and he's not doing a Ru Paul imitation
He means: You've made him breakfast, he fixed your car and his buddies aren't allowed to come on to you
He says: Nothing's wrong. I'm fine
He means: God, I know you want to talk about my day and all my interrelationships with my colleagues and boss and the guy who drives my bus, but I am at home now and I just want to drink 10 beers, eat a bag of chips for dinner and zone out
He says: Maybe we need to slow down
He means: Maybe you need to slow down
He says: I don't know what I want
He means: I don't want you
He says: I need some space
He means: I'm about this close to dumping you but I haven't worked up the nerve yet
He says: You're an amazing woman
He means: You're an amazing woman
He says: I love you
He means: You make me incredibly happy whenever we are together. I think you may be The One.
What He Hears When You Speak
page 5 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
Men don't always hear everything you're saying, which means he's not always getting your message:
You say (after being introduced): Do you know this band?
He hears: I want you now
You say: What do you do?
He hears: Are you making enough money to make you marriage material?
You say: My ex is a crazy stalker who won't stop calling me. He scares me
He hears: I'm still in love with my ex
You say: What are we doing Saturday night?
He hears: I want all your time for the rest of your life
You say (after making love): That was really nice
He hears: That was the best sex of my life. Let's do it again!
Top Lies He'll Tell You
page 6 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
Be wary, if he says any of the following to you:
But I tried to call
I didn't get the message
I didn't notice what she looked like
Sex isn't the most important thing
I'll be careful
We'll talk about it later
I'm not mad
I could fall in love with you in a minute (wait a minute and ask him how he feels now)
Learning to Talk Just Like Him
page 7 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
How to talk to a man so he understands you:
Men can only take directions one at a time. So, if you want him to go into the kitchen and get you a cup of tea, make it a two-part request (this also applies to when you are in bed with him).
When men bother to use words, it's to inspire action (whereas women communicate to bond). So if a guy insults another guy, he automatically thinks he wants to fight. And if you say you like his shirt, he thinks, "Cool -- she wants to jump my bones!"
University of Houston psychologists investigating why men keep things bottled up found it was to maintain power in a relationship -- when they don't talk, their partner is left guessing. You do the same and he'll be putty in your hands.
Men don't want to talk about the relationship. They just want to do it (in his mind, if he didn't love you, he'd leave). Here's how he thinks: "If we need to talk about the relationship, it must be broken. If it's broken, it means it's doomed. I'm outta here."
A man will say, "I'm fine," even when being tortured by Zulu warriors. It's in his nature not to reveal weakness because that betrays vulnerability, which comes off as lack of status, according to research by evolutionary psychologist David Buss. In short, he's worried you'll think he's a weed if he can't solve his problems without his Superwoman girlfriend coming to his aid.
How to Know He Loves You
page 8 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
There are certain words his tongue seems to trip over -- like "girlfriend," "love" and "commitment." But since men are action-driven, it's really more important what he does than what he says.You know your man really loves you if he:
Lets you drive his car (especially his new SUV)
Assumes you're spending the weekend together
Introduces you to his friends
Stops wearing his "If you're not wasted, the day is" T-shirt, because he knows you hate it
Calls for absolutely no reason
Wants to talk after sex
Things He Never Wants to Hear
page 9 of "Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You"
Here's what he really doesn't want to hear from you (and probably won't hear anyway):
Honey, we have to talk. No, YOU have to talk -- and talk and talk and talk
What are you thinking about?: His feelings, like his answers, will be simple. So if you are lying in postcoital comfort and he answers, "Pizza," he really means he is thinking about pizza and not that you have skin that resembles pizza or you look like you've eaten one too many pies in your life
Do you think that girl is pretty?: He thinks that if he even hesitates to say no, it will kill his chances of sex that night -- or any other night
I want to get married: He already assumes this is what you want, he just doesn't want to hear it. So you only have to notify him if this is NOT the case
How do I look -- honestly?: Honestly, you look wonderful to him. That's why he's with you
10:34 PM
If Your Chosen Color Is Orange...
page 4 of "Who's Your Mr. Right? Find Out with 3 Surprising Color Clues"
Your charismatic, lovable and affectionate nature wins men over. Touching gives you the ability to see the truth in situations and relationships. It's your way of letting others know you're listening and that you care about them.
You are lured into relationships by the way men look. Your decision to get married, however, is based on intellect.
You dedicate yourself to a man who's smart, and usually marry for life. You build relationships with a guy who can teach you things. "Oranges" marry the smart guys!
One word of warning: When first meeting a guy, you hide the sensitive side of yourself. Your clever defenses are all he sees. He may be mistaken about your true personality if you aren't willing to open up over time.
LOL hey this
is addicting....
page 4 of "Who's Your Mr. Right? Find Out with 3 Surprising Color Clues"
Your charismatic, lovable and affectionate nature wins men over. Touching gives you the ability to see the truth in situations and relationships. It's your way of letting others know you're listening and that you care about them.
You are lured into relationships by the way men look. Your decision to get married, however, is based on intellect.
You dedicate yourself to a man who's smart, and usually marry for life. You build relationships with a guy who can teach you things. "Oranges" marry the smart guys!
One word of warning: When first meeting a guy, you hide the sensitive side of yourself. Your clever defenses are all he sees. He may be mistaken about your true personality if you aren't willing to open up over time.
LOL hey this
is addicting....
10:16 PM
Okie Okie Just in case u are like a female like me... having real difficulty in love life or just perhaps on the edge of turning into a lesbo.. heres some links you ought to check out...
YOU said YOu Can't Understand Men ..well here are some
clues
..
Here's some questions
we gers haved asked ourselves over and over again...
YOU said YOu Can't Understand Men ..well here are some
clues
..
Here's some questions
we gers haved asked ourselves over and over again...
9:06 PM
Guys Decoded:
Your Top 5 Questions Answered
If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, then it makes sense that both sexes spend an awful lot of time trying to understand each other. To help align the planets, Mr. Answer Man, authority on all things male, has answered iVillagers' top 5 questions about mystifying male behavior.
1. Why are men such lousy listeners?
It's not that we're lousy listeners, we're just good editors. If you say something important or interesting to us, especially something about sports, sex or some other topic we hold near and dear to our hearts, we're all ears -- provided we're
not busy watching a ball game or reading the newspaper. But when it comes to most other topics we couldn't care less about (fashion, fad diets, your best friend's new boyfriend), we know that if we nod, grunt and otherwise feign listening, it's almost as good and you may not even notice we've tuned out. If you do, we know your anger won't last more than a few hours. Lame? Maybe. But it's the truth. If you want to try to change things, you have two options: Either try tuning out when your man is discussing something you couldn't care less about and see if he likes it (don't be surprised if he doesn't even notice) or choose your topics of conversation more carefully, and save the fashion talk and gossip for your girlfriends.
2. How can I get my guy to be more affectionate?
This is one of those questions that keep popping up in the world of male-female relationships -- probably because no one has been able to come up with a useful solution. But I think I've got it licked: To get your guy to be more affectionate, use the theory that "men are like dogs" and treat him like the most famous scientific dog there ever was, Pavlov's dog. Find a time, in private, to give your guy a small dose of affection. For example, try a hug from behind. As you hug, make him smile. You might whisper into his ear one of those inside jokes that all couples have, or promise he can watch sports all day on Sunday, without a single complaint from you. He'll associate the affection with something good and, in time, will warm up to the idea of returning this pleasure-producing behavior. I know you'll be tempted, but please don't try to talk to him first about this. I know, I know, you are supposed to communicate in a healthy relationship, but taking the bull by the horns is a better idea in this case. If you mention how much you want him to be more affectionate, it will read like a nag, whine or pester, even though it's not. And that will get you nowhere. Instead, show, don't tell, until it takes. And be patient -- this one may take a while.
3. Do men like it when women play hard-to-get?
Not only does playing hard-to-get work, if done correctly it can help start out a relationship on a very spicy tip. The bottom line is that men like the thrill of the chase and, yes, we want what we can't have. It's just part of how we're programmed. So if you act somewhat interested yet slightly unavailable, we eat it up. The key, however, is to balance the chase with tidbits of encouragement. If you sense that your flirtatious snubs and indecision are frustrating him, throw him a bone. This may seem an antiquated scenario, but the truth is that guys like chasing after you as much as you like being pursued. Give your new man the right bait and he'll jump through hoops to get it (read: you). Just be sure he knows there's a light at the end of the tunnel.
4. Why don't guys talk about their ex-girlfriends?
It's not that guys don't talk about their ex-girlfriends, it's that they talk about them much, much less than women talk about (or want to talk about) their ex-boyfriends. The fact is, every relationship ends with blood on both hands, and the good guys will admit they could have done a better job in retrospect. Other than that, what more do you need to know? There's a word for wanting to know about the ex-girlfriends your guy was in love with: masochism.
masochism ---- Definition: [n] sexual pleasure obtained from receiving punishment (physical or psychological)
The only pertinent questions you need to ask about exes are:
1. How long ago were you together? Hopefully, they didn't just split -- making you the oft-doomed rebound woman. If the ex wasn't an ex until yesterday, well, that changes things. Then you have to ask yourself if you really want to be with a guy who cheated on his girlfriend to be with you.
2. What caused the relationship to end? If he says, "She was crazy," grab your sneakers and run -- don't walk -- away from him. You don't need some scorned ex around to make you nervous.
5. Do men like it when women tell them what they (women) want in bed?
That would depend on what you're requesting. If you ask a man if he wouldn't mind lasting longer or smelling better, you'll get a less-than-positive response. But, in general, there is no better turn-on for us than completely ringing your bell (aka, satisfying you sexually). So if you know a short cut or a sure-fire method, then by all means, speak up. We're all ears!
If you're shy about speaking in specifics or are worried about offending him, rather than sit him down for an uncomfortable heart-to-heart, why not introduce some new and improved moves yourself, then see how he reacts? Then, later on, you can ask him what he thought. He may blush, he may even balk, but it will serve as the green light for him to get creative, too.
Your Top 5 Questions Answered
If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, then it makes sense that both sexes spend an awful lot of time trying to understand each other. To help align the planets, Mr. Answer Man, authority on all things male, has answered iVillagers' top 5 questions about mystifying male behavior.
1. Why are men such lousy listeners?
It's not that we're lousy listeners, we're just good editors. If you say something important or interesting to us, especially something about sports, sex or some other topic we hold near and dear to our hearts, we're all ears -- provided we're
not busy watching a ball game or reading the newspaper. But when it comes to most other topics we couldn't care less about (fashion, fad diets, your best friend's new boyfriend), we know that if we nod, grunt and otherwise feign listening, it's almost as good and you may not even notice we've tuned out. If you do, we know your anger won't last more than a few hours. Lame? Maybe. But it's the truth. If you want to try to change things, you have two options: Either try tuning out when your man is discussing something you couldn't care less about and see if he likes it (don't be surprised if he doesn't even notice) or choose your topics of conversation more carefully, and save the fashion talk and gossip for your girlfriends.
2. How can I get my guy to be more affectionate?
This is one of those questions that keep popping up in the world of male-female relationships -- probably because no one has been able to come up with a useful solution. But I think I've got it licked: To get your guy to be more affectionate, use the theory that "men are like dogs" and treat him like the most famous scientific dog there ever was, Pavlov's dog. Find a time, in private, to give your guy a small dose of affection. For example, try a hug from behind. As you hug, make him smile. You might whisper into his ear one of those inside jokes that all couples have, or promise he can watch sports all day on Sunday, without a single complaint from you. He'll associate the affection with something good and, in time, will warm up to the idea of returning this pleasure-producing behavior. I know you'll be tempted, but please don't try to talk to him first about this. I know, I know, you are supposed to communicate in a healthy relationship, but taking the bull by the horns is a better idea in this case. If you mention how much you want him to be more affectionate, it will read like a nag, whine or pester, even though it's not. And that will get you nowhere. Instead, show, don't tell, until it takes. And be patient -- this one may take a while.
3. Do men like it when women play hard-to-get?
Not only does playing hard-to-get work, if done correctly it can help start out a relationship on a very spicy tip. The bottom line is that men like the thrill of the chase and, yes, we want what we can't have. It's just part of how we're programmed. So if you act somewhat interested yet slightly unavailable, we eat it up. The key, however, is to balance the chase with tidbits of encouragement. If you sense that your flirtatious snubs and indecision are frustrating him, throw him a bone. This may seem an antiquated scenario, but the truth is that guys like chasing after you as much as you like being pursued. Give your new man the right bait and he'll jump through hoops to get it (read: you). Just be sure he knows there's a light at the end of the tunnel.
4. Why don't guys talk about their ex-girlfriends?
It's not that guys don't talk about their ex-girlfriends, it's that they talk about them much, much less than women talk about (or want to talk about) their ex-boyfriends. The fact is, every relationship ends with blood on both hands, and the good guys will admit they could have done a better job in retrospect. Other than that, what more do you need to know? There's a word for wanting to know about the ex-girlfriends your guy was in love with: masochism.
masochism ---- Definition: [n] sexual pleasure obtained from receiving punishment (physical or psychological)
The only pertinent questions you need to ask about exes are:
1. How long ago were you together? Hopefully, they didn't just split -- making you the oft-doomed rebound woman. If the ex wasn't an ex until yesterday, well, that changes things. Then you have to ask yourself if you really want to be with a guy who cheated on his girlfriend to be with you.
2. What caused the relationship to end? If he says, "She was crazy," grab your sneakers and run -- don't walk -- away from him. You don't need some scorned ex around to make you nervous.
5. Do men like it when women tell them what they (women) want in bed?
That would depend on what you're requesting. If you ask a man if he wouldn't mind lasting longer or smelling better, you'll get a less-than-positive response. But, in general, there is no better turn-on for us than completely ringing your bell (aka, satisfying you sexually). So if you know a short cut or a sure-fire method, then by all means, speak up. We're all ears!
If you're shy about speaking in specifics or are worried about offending him, rather than sit him down for an uncomfortable heart-to-heart, why not introduce some new and improved moves yourself, then see how he reacts? Then, later on, you can ask him what he thought. He may blush, he may even balk, but it will serve as the green light for him to get creative, too.
9:00 PM
5 Ego Boosts Every Man Needs
By Francesca Di Meglio
Men are full of surprises, and bedroom behavior is no exception. To get to the bottom of things, it took one of their own -- and a psychologist at that -- George Weinberg, author of Why Men Won't Commit: Getting What You Both Want without Playing Games, who studies male behavior in romantic relationships. While we can't explain all male behavior, here are five sex secrets that may help you understand -- and get even closer to -- your guy.
1. He's afraid he'll let you down -- literally. Men feel tremendous pressure to perform sexually. "In the past, men weren't evaluating their sexual performance because women weren't supposed to judge them," says Weinberg. But times have changed. Women aren't waiting for marriage to have sex anymore, and that means they have more experience in the bedroom. Sexually satisfied role models, including Madonna and the sirens of Sex and the City, encourage women to be open about their sexual desires and complaints. Suddenly, the pressure to perform is on, and he can't help but feel like he has to please you. Even though you might forgive him for a few poor performances, he has a hard time forgiving himself.
Warning: If your man has a recurring problem getting aroused or maintaining his erection, he may start to blame you to protect his ego.
What you can do: Dr. Weinberg suggests something simple. Just relax and try to enjoy sex, which will help to alleviate some of the pressure. In other words, don't take it personally or, worse, insult him. And never point and laugh!
2. Men need validation to get their groove on. Sex is a source of power, and it gives proof that one is masculine. "To a man, having sex means that he can move a woman, that he's an athlete, a provider and a lover," says Weinberg. Basically, your guy wants to be a superhero, and he certainly wants you to see him in that light. When he satisfies you sexually, he feels like Superman. If you are enjoying yourself, your best bet is to let him know that Lois Lane is happy, adds Weinberg.
Warning: No encouragement means no mojo.
What you can do: It's simple. Say, "That feels good," or let out a moan or heavy breath when you feel like it. A good rule of thumb: Don't fake it, but don't fight it.
3. Men don't like waiting too long to have sex with a new partner. Unlike some dating experts, Weinberg believes that women should never hold out to have sex simply because of the so-called "rules of dating." He is more likely to commit if there is a sexual component to the relationship, and it is important for him to know that you find him sexually desirable. "A man goes through a lifetime hoping to find a woman who can't keep her hands off him," says Weinberg.
Warning: "Frankly, if your guy is offended when you initiate sex, get rid of him."
What you can do: We're all sensual beings; we might as well be who we are. So don't be afraid to make a move when the mood strikes.
NOTE: I AM NOT GOING TO TAKE ANY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE ADVICE POSTED HERE... U KNOW WHAT TO DO AND WHAT NOT TO DO!!!
4. Men wish they had better bodies, too. Let's face it: Men might not worry about weight nearly as much as women do, but they do have their own image issues.
Warning: Most men are quite concerned about their penis size, general physical condition, height and baldness, says Weinberg. In other words, they are hoping for mood lighting in the bedroom just as much as women are.
What you can do: Help your man by telling him that you find him attractive and showing him affection.
5. Most men will not forgive a cheating girlfriend. Men who have been betrayed, especially in the bedroom, are far less likely to forgive their partners than women would be in the same situation, says Weinberg.
Warning: Men are looking for a woman who will stick with them.
What you can do: Show your loyalty not only by remaining faithful when in a committed relationship, but also by supporting your man in front of colleagues and friends and defending him when necessary, says Weinberg. This allegiance will make your man more secure and will give him the motivation to let loose in the bedroom with you. Men want commitment just as much as women do; they just want it packaged differently.
LOL =P
By Francesca Di Meglio
Men are full of surprises, and bedroom behavior is no exception. To get to the bottom of things, it took one of their own -- and a psychologist at that -- George Weinberg, author of Why Men Won't Commit: Getting What You Both Want without Playing Games, who studies male behavior in romantic relationships. While we can't explain all male behavior, here are five sex secrets that may help you understand -- and get even closer to -- your guy.
1. He's afraid he'll let you down -- literally. Men feel tremendous pressure to perform sexually. "In the past, men weren't evaluating their sexual performance because women weren't supposed to judge them," says Weinberg. But times have changed. Women aren't waiting for marriage to have sex anymore, and that means they have more experience in the bedroom. Sexually satisfied role models, including Madonna and the sirens of Sex and the City, encourage women to be open about their sexual desires and complaints. Suddenly, the pressure to perform is on, and he can't help but feel like he has to please you. Even though you might forgive him for a few poor performances, he has a hard time forgiving himself.
Warning: If your man has a recurring problem getting aroused or maintaining his erection, he may start to blame you to protect his ego.
What you can do: Dr. Weinberg suggests something simple. Just relax and try to enjoy sex, which will help to alleviate some of the pressure. In other words, don't take it personally or, worse, insult him. And never point and laugh!
2. Men need validation to get their groove on. Sex is a source of power, and it gives proof that one is masculine. "To a man, having sex means that he can move a woman, that he's an athlete, a provider and a lover," says Weinberg. Basically, your guy wants to be a superhero, and he certainly wants you to see him in that light. When he satisfies you sexually, he feels like Superman. If you are enjoying yourself, your best bet is to let him know that Lois Lane is happy, adds Weinberg.
Warning: No encouragement means no mojo.
What you can do: It's simple. Say, "That feels good," or let out a moan or heavy breath when you feel like it. A good rule of thumb: Don't fake it, but don't fight it.
3. Men don't like waiting too long to have sex with a new partner. Unlike some dating experts, Weinberg believes that women should never hold out to have sex simply because of the so-called "rules of dating." He is more likely to commit if there is a sexual component to the relationship, and it is important for him to know that you find him sexually desirable. "A man goes through a lifetime hoping to find a woman who can't keep her hands off him," says Weinberg.
Warning: "Frankly, if your guy is offended when you initiate sex, get rid of him."
What you can do: We're all sensual beings; we might as well be who we are. So don't be afraid to make a move when the mood strikes.
NOTE: I AM NOT GOING TO TAKE ANY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE ADVICE POSTED HERE... U KNOW WHAT TO DO AND WHAT NOT TO DO!!!
4. Men wish they had better bodies, too. Let's face it: Men might not worry about weight nearly as much as women do, but they do have their own image issues.
Warning: Most men are quite concerned about their penis size, general physical condition, height and baldness, says Weinberg. In other words, they are hoping for mood lighting in the bedroom just as much as women are.
What you can do: Help your man by telling him that you find him attractive and showing him affection.
5. Most men will not forgive a cheating girlfriend. Men who have been betrayed, especially in the bedroom, are far less likely to forgive their partners than women would be in the same situation, says Weinberg.
Warning: Men are looking for a woman who will stick with them.
What you can do: Show your loyalty not only by remaining faithful when in a committed relationship, but also by supporting your man in front of colleagues and friends and defending him when necessary, says Weinberg. This allegiance will make your man more secure and will give him the motivation to let loose in the bedroom with you. Men want commitment just as much as women do; they just want it packaged differently.
LOL =P
8:49 PM
Dealbreakers in the Making
6 Men Who Will Break Your Heart
These are men with just a whisper of something askew that needs to be carefully evaluated. Like, oh, maybe he worships Satan. Do not, at your peril, neglect the following warning signs:
He calls you a "classy lady," a "special lady" or a "special classy lady."
He visibly needs dental work.
He doesn't have a dog because it is "too much responsibility."
He still has his ex's makeup stashed somewhere in his bathroom.
He swears he only watches PBS.
He can't eat unless his napkin is folded like a swan.
He uses the adjective "delicious" to describe people, not cake.
He paints stripes on his face prior to attending sporting events.
He wears fur.
He wears tight pants. Or leather pants. Or tight leather pants.
He sports visible hairplugs or even wears an actual hairpiece, which is only okay if he's an actor.
He suggests candlelit dinners, long walks on the beach, and describes himself as "youthful," or exhibits other behavior that suggests he's Mr. Personal Ad.
He's bald, yet he has a ponytail.
He's a stockbroker, yet he has a ponytail.
He is clean-shaven, except for a horrid little tuft of hair right above his chin.
He really loves his mother.
He really hates his mother.
He wears Italian loafers without socks.
He remembers and tells you his SAT scores.
His checks have a pastel background of kitties playing with yarn.
You may think, "Oh, so what, his pants are tight," or even "Why should I care if he's missing a front tooth?" Yet these little traits are simply the tip of a big personality iceberg: A man who is afraid of the responsibility of a dog will most likely leave you out in the rain. A stockbroker with a ponytail has a yen to be involved in organized crime. A man who says he only watches PBS usually suffers from herpes. Always remember: If she is anywhere, God is in the details.
On the other hand, there are geeks out there, and they, as geeks, have no social skills at all and would have fared way better had they been brought up by wolves. It is totally possible for a geek -- anyone who has ever, in any sense, written "code" -- to exhibit all the traits listed above and still be perfectly fine, since he simply read the wrong "how to be a human" manual and can be easily led away from the Sansabelt slacks with a judicious cattle prod.
Suitors with More than One Job
There is something very swoony about the "/" guys. You know, the carpenter/musician, the housepainter/sculptor, the dentist/photographer. This guy exudes a certain brooding poetry, a vulnerability, and a disarming zest for sex anywhere and anytime, including fields and stairwells. And he'll write a song about you, because even if a "/" guy is a plumber/poet, he still plays the guitar. They all play the guitar. Accoustic. Without such guys, no women in NYC would have had a date for the past three decades.
Our "/" guy will thrill us when in his twenties and early thirties. But he will undoubtedly not be so cute in his forties and fifties, when he will still be wandering around vaguely with plaster in his hair, clutching his beloved fifty-year-old Gibson guitar. It is the law that when a "/" guys hits forty-five, he must move to Berkeley or Austin, Texas, and smoke pot until he dies.
Yes, our "/" guy does have the capacity to form a permanent pair bond, although he will never actually mature. You will be supporting him. You will also spend an awful lot of time listening to him pick out Richard Thompson tunes on the guitar, bobbing your head, snapping your fingers and closing your eyes in perfect bliss, even though you're secretly thinking about handbags.
I myself have spent approximately three decades sitting on sofas, smiling with a bright rictus of appreciation while assorted men serenaded me. There was a huge parade of them -- junkies, accountants, editors, plumbers, even actual card-carrying musicians. One thing went through my mind the whole time: Stop playing already! I really only wanted to joke and make out.
The scariest guy like this I've ever met was a carpenter/professional storyteller. This guy is in his fifties, lives in Berkeley, has a wife and three children. His wife supports them, even with the carpentry/professional storytelling. Every Christmas he buys her Birkenstocks. The scariest part: All their children are SINGER/SONGWRITERS! This woman always looks just a tad glazed, as if she's on a full-spectrum antidepressant cocktail. I believe the only reason she hasn't killed herself yet is that she is just too tired.
Self-Proclaimed "Renaissance Men"
Still a "/" guy has a certain charm, unlike the dreaded Renaissance man. I forbid you to go out with this guy. I forbid you to even ask him for directions. Any fellow who defines himself as a Renaissance man is telling you, in shorthand, "I am full of a quite yet all-encompassing knowledge and no matter what you know, I will always know better than you and will chuckle with a quiet condescension whenever you challenge me and I might even smoke a pipe. Plus, I don't make any money ever, but that is not my fault. It is the fault of the system."
You may think your Renaissance man is not like this. But they are all like this. The underlying theme of the Renaissance man is that his entitlement expectations are off the chart. Once when I was working on a sitcom my friend Marco and I went out to dinner with Meg, an actress, and Brad, her R.m. husband. We were talking, as all sitcom writers will whenever they can open their mouths, about the stupidity of the networks, how no good sitcom goes unpunished, etc. Brad looked at us pityingly.
"We need to find a way to liberate the sitcom from television. We can do sitcoms in the park if we have to! In fact, I already have a project to do sitcoms in the park. A lot of the more edgy producers who have been burned by Hollywood are interested. If it's good, and of course it will be good, people will come. Interested?"
Oh yeah, we were interested. Interested in checking him into the nearest NUTHOUSE.
"Brad is such a Renaissance man," Meg said fondly. She is no longer with him. She is now -- I swear this is true -- with a Baldwin brother.
Renaissance man-A man who has broad intellectual interests and is accomplished in areas of both the arts and the sciences
... hmmm the next on list is married men, convicts and mental pple and guys with addictions -.-""" i think no need for much info bah x_x ... hmm a note to take care of..
And, finally, The Addicts
Here's why you should never date anyone who is an alcoholic, a drug addict, a big ole gambler or a huffer of glue: Because, no matter what, he will break your heart.
Contrary to movies of the week, most addicts do not look or act like psychotic mass murderers with Bell's palsy. Your basic addict is not a bad person but is, in fact, too charming. He's sweet, intuitive, pretty and he gives incredible head, since an addict is sensitive, he feels things deeply, he is all exposed nerve endings and empathy.
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6 Men Who Will Break Your Heart
These are men with just a whisper of something askew that needs to be carefully evaluated. Like, oh, maybe he worships Satan. Do not, at your peril, neglect the following warning signs:
He calls you a "classy lady," a "special lady" or a "special classy lady."
He visibly needs dental work.
He doesn't have a dog because it is "too much responsibility."
He still has his ex's makeup stashed somewhere in his bathroom.
He swears he only watches PBS.
He can't eat unless his napkin is folded like a swan.
He uses the adjective "delicious" to describe people, not cake.
He paints stripes on his face prior to attending sporting events.
He wears fur.
He wears tight pants. Or leather pants. Or tight leather pants.
He sports visible hairplugs or even wears an actual hairpiece, which is only okay if he's an actor.
He suggests candlelit dinners, long walks on the beach, and describes himself as "youthful," or exhibits other behavior that suggests he's Mr. Personal Ad.
He's bald, yet he has a ponytail.
He's a stockbroker, yet he has a ponytail.
He is clean-shaven, except for a horrid little tuft of hair right above his chin.
He really loves his mother.
He really hates his mother.
He wears Italian loafers without socks.
He remembers and tells you his SAT scores.
His checks have a pastel background of kitties playing with yarn.
You may think, "Oh, so what, his pants are tight," or even "Why should I care if he's missing a front tooth?" Yet these little traits are simply the tip of a big personality iceberg: A man who is afraid of the responsibility of a dog will most likely leave you out in the rain. A stockbroker with a ponytail has a yen to be involved in organized crime. A man who says he only watches PBS usually suffers from herpes. Always remember: If she is anywhere, God is in the details.
On the other hand, there are geeks out there, and they, as geeks, have no social skills at all and would have fared way better had they been brought up by wolves. It is totally possible for a geek -- anyone who has ever, in any sense, written "code" -- to exhibit all the traits listed above and still be perfectly fine, since he simply read the wrong "how to be a human" manual and can be easily led away from the Sansabelt slacks with a judicious cattle prod.
Suitors with More than One Job
There is something very swoony about the "/" guys. You know, the carpenter/musician, the housepainter/sculptor, the dentist/photographer. This guy exudes a certain brooding poetry, a vulnerability, and a disarming zest for sex anywhere and anytime, including fields and stairwells. And he'll write a song about you, because even if a "/" guy is a plumber/poet, he still plays the guitar. They all play the guitar. Accoustic. Without such guys, no women in NYC would have had a date for the past three decades.
Our "/" guy will thrill us when in his twenties and early thirties. But he will undoubtedly not be so cute in his forties and fifties, when he will still be wandering around vaguely with plaster in his hair, clutching his beloved fifty-year-old Gibson guitar. It is the law that when a "/" guys hits forty-five, he must move to Berkeley or Austin, Texas, and smoke pot until he dies.
Yes, our "/" guy does have the capacity to form a permanent pair bond, although he will never actually mature. You will be supporting him. You will also spend an awful lot of time listening to him pick out Richard Thompson tunes on the guitar, bobbing your head, snapping your fingers and closing your eyes in perfect bliss, even though you're secretly thinking about handbags.
I myself have spent approximately three decades sitting on sofas, smiling with a bright rictus of appreciation while assorted men serenaded me. There was a huge parade of them -- junkies, accountants, editors, plumbers, even actual card-carrying musicians. One thing went through my mind the whole time: Stop playing already! I really only wanted to joke and make out.
The scariest guy like this I've ever met was a carpenter/professional storyteller. This guy is in his fifties, lives in Berkeley, has a wife and three children. His wife supports them, even with the carpentry/professional storytelling. Every Christmas he buys her Birkenstocks. The scariest part: All their children are SINGER/SONGWRITERS! This woman always looks just a tad glazed, as if she's on a full-spectrum antidepressant cocktail. I believe the only reason she hasn't killed herself yet is that she is just too tired.
Self-Proclaimed "Renaissance Men"
Still a "/" guy has a certain charm, unlike the dreaded Renaissance man. I forbid you to go out with this guy. I forbid you to even ask him for directions. Any fellow who defines himself as a Renaissance man is telling you, in shorthand, "I am full of a quite yet all-encompassing knowledge and no matter what you know, I will always know better than you and will chuckle with a quiet condescension whenever you challenge me and I might even smoke a pipe. Plus, I don't make any money ever, but that is not my fault. It is the fault of the system."
You may think your Renaissance man is not like this. But they are all like this. The underlying theme of the Renaissance man is that his entitlement expectations are off the chart. Once when I was working on a sitcom my friend Marco and I went out to dinner with Meg, an actress, and Brad, her R.m. husband. We were talking, as all sitcom writers will whenever they can open their mouths, about the stupidity of the networks, how no good sitcom goes unpunished, etc. Brad looked at us pityingly.
"We need to find a way to liberate the sitcom from television. We can do sitcoms in the park if we have to! In fact, I already have a project to do sitcoms in the park. A lot of the more edgy producers who have been burned by Hollywood are interested. If it's good, and of course it will be good, people will come. Interested?"
Oh yeah, we were interested. Interested in checking him into the nearest NUTHOUSE.
"Brad is such a Renaissance man," Meg said fondly. She is no longer with him. She is now -- I swear this is true -- with a Baldwin brother.
Renaissance man-A man who has broad intellectual interests and is accomplished in areas of both the arts and the sciences
... hmmm the next on list is married men, convicts and mental pple and guys with addictions -.-""" i think no need for much info bah x_x ... hmm a note to take care of..
And, finally, The Addicts
Here's why you should never date anyone who is an alcoholic, a drug addict, a big ole gambler or a huffer of glue: Because, no matter what, he will break your heart.
Contrary to movies of the week, most addicts do not look or act like psychotic mass murderers with Bell's palsy. Your basic addict is not a bad person but is, in fact, too charming. He's sweet, intuitive, pretty and he gives incredible head, since an addict is sensitive, he feels things deeply, he is all exposed nerve endings and empathy.
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8:37 PM
5 Ways to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You
Hang Around Lots...but Then Be Unavailable
The more you interact with someone, the more they'll like you, says David Lieberman, a U.S. expert in human behavior. He's right actually. Several studies show repeated exposure to practically any stimulus makes us like it more (the only time it doesn't hold true is if our initial reaction to it is negative). So forget about being aloof, evasive, and unavailable in the beginning. Instead, find lots of excuses to spend time with him.
Now, pay attention, because this is the tricky part. Just when you're convinced you've won them over and they like you, start being a little less available. And then even less, until they hardly see you at all. You've now effectively instigated the "law of scarcity." We all know this one: people want what they can't have and by constantly being available, you diminish your value. If every time you walked outside your front door there was a huge pile of diamonds to step over, you'd hardly see them as precious would you? The law of scarcity only makes them want you. Be around and then not around and they'll want and like you. I'm stating the obvious here, but liking someone is important. We talk endlessly about chemistry, passion, sexual attraction, and even more about love, yet "like" rarely gets mention. Opposites don't attract long-term; we search for similarities in a partner. Most of us can't see the point in hanging around friends we don't like, so why do it with a lover? Liking someone is more important long-term than actually loving them. It's not just similarities in our personalities that count. If you go out with someone who looks like you, they're four times more likely to fall in love with you! "That's so true!" said a girlfriend, when I told her this trivia tidbit. "Look at my sister and her husband!" Umm -- why? Lisa's sister has bleached blonde hair, freckles, and ivory skin. Her husband is Indian. "I'm not quite with you," I said carefully. "I know it's not obvious," she said, "But it's the proportion of their faces. His mother came up to me at their wedding and said, 'They will be happy because they are the same. Look at them.' And it's true. They have the same features, in the same places, in the same proportions.
Don't Do Nice Things for Them. Let Them Do Nice Things for You
If you do something nice for someone, it makes you feel good on two levels. You feel pleased with yourself and extra-warm toward the person you've just spoiled. To justify the effort or expense, we often over-idealize how wonderful he is to deserve it! End result: we like the person more. When someone does something nice for us, we're pleased. But there are a whole lot of other emotions that come into play -- and they're not all good. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed. There's pressure to live up to being the wonderful person who inspired such a gift/act, not to mention pressure to return the favor. It's all even trickier if the "nice thing" comes from someone you very much like but aren't sure about yet. Got the point? When we're infatuated with someone, we're desperate to do nice things for him. You're much better off letting him spoil you.
Give Them the Eye
Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin set out to see if he could measure love scientifically and achieved it by recording the amount of time lovers spent staring at each other. He discovered that couples who are deeply in love look at each other 75 percent of the time when talking and are slower to look away when someone else dares to intrude. In normal conversation, people look at each other between 30-60 percent of the time. The significance of what's now known as Rubin's Scale is obvious: It's possible to tell how "in love" people are by measuring the amount of time they spend gazing adoringly. Some psychologists still use it during counseling to work out how much affection couples feel for each other. It also happens to be remarkably handy information if you want to make someone fall in love with you. Here's how it works: If you look at someone you like 75 percent of the time when they're talking to you, you trick their brain. The brain knows the last time that someone looked at them that long and often, it meant they were in love. So it thinks OK, I'm obviously in love with this person as well, and starts to release phenylethylamine (PEA). PEA is a chemical cousin to amphetamines and is secreted by the nervous system when we first fall in love. PEA is what makes our palms sweat, our tummies flip over, and our hearts race. The more PEA the person you want has pumping through the bloodstream, the more likely he is to fall in love with you. While you can't honestly force someone to adore you if he's not remotely interested (they won't let you look into their eyes for that long, for a start!), it is entirely possible to kick-start the production of PEA using this technique. Try it. I think you'll be pretty impressed with the results. Give someone the sensation of feeling in love whenever he's with you, and it's not such a huge leap of logic for him to finally decide that he is!
Don't Look Away
There was another crucial finding from Rubin's research: The couples took longer to look away when someone else joined the conversation. Again, if you do this to someone who's not in love with you (yet), you trick his brain into thinking he is, and even more PEA floods into his bloodstream. Relationships expert Leil Lownes calls this technique making "toffee eyes." Simply lock eyes with the person you like and keep them there, even when he has finished talking or someone else joins the conversation. When you eventually do drag your eyes away (three or four seconds later), do it slowly and reluctantly -- as though they're attached by warm toffee. This technique may not sound terribly inspired but, believe me, if done properly it can literally take your breath away. If you're too shy to gaze openly, skip the toffee and think bouncing ball. Look away and at the other person who's joined the conversation, but every time they finish a sentence, let your eyes bounce back to the person you're interested in. This is a checking gesture -- you're checking his reaction to what the speaker is saying -- and lets him know you're more interested in him than the other person.
Practice Pupillometrics
We all know "bedroom eyes" when we see them: it's the look of lust. There's just one thing you need for bedroom eyes: big pupils. According to pupillometrics, the science of pupil study, this is the crucial element we respond to. You can't consciously control your pupils (one reason why people say the eyes don't lie). But you can create the right conditions to inspire large pupils and get the effect. First, reduce light. Our pupils expand when they're robbed of it, one reason why candlelight and dimmer switches are de rigueur in romantic restaurants. It's not just the softening of light that makes our faces appear more attractive, larger pupils also help. Scientists showed two sets of pictures of a woman's face to men. The photograph was identical, except for one thing; the pupils in one set had been doctored to make them larger. When shown the doctored photograph, men judged the woman as twice more attractive than when shown the real photo. It was repeated with a man's face and tested on women and gave the same result. Our pupils also enlarge when we look at something we like. Again, this can be proved using pictures. This time, researchers snuck a picture of a naked woman into a pile of otherwise bland, commonplace photographs then watched men's pupil size when they flicked through them. Without exception, the men's pupils expanded on cue. This means if you're attracted to someone a lot, your pupils are probably already big, black holes. All good. To ensure this is happening or to up the effect of your bedroom eyes, focus on the part of the person you like the most. (On second thought, better make it the next best thing.)
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Hang Around Lots...but Then Be Unavailable
The more you interact with someone, the more they'll like you, says David Lieberman, a U.S. expert in human behavior. He's right actually. Several studies show repeated exposure to practically any stimulus makes us like it more (the only time it doesn't hold true is if our initial reaction to it is negative). So forget about being aloof, evasive, and unavailable in the beginning. Instead, find lots of excuses to spend time with him.
Now, pay attention, because this is the tricky part. Just when you're convinced you've won them over and they like you, start being a little less available. And then even less, until they hardly see you at all. You've now effectively instigated the "law of scarcity." We all know this one: people want what they can't have and by constantly being available, you diminish your value. If every time you walked outside your front door there was a huge pile of diamonds to step over, you'd hardly see them as precious would you? The law of scarcity only makes them want you. Be around and then not around and they'll want and like you. I'm stating the obvious here, but liking someone is important. We talk endlessly about chemistry, passion, sexual attraction, and even more about love, yet "like" rarely gets mention. Opposites don't attract long-term; we search for similarities in a partner. Most of us can't see the point in hanging around friends we don't like, so why do it with a lover? Liking someone is more important long-term than actually loving them. It's not just similarities in our personalities that count. If you go out with someone who looks like you, they're four times more likely to fall in love with you! "That's so true!" said a girlfriend, when I told her this trivia tidbit. "Look at my sister and her husband!" Umm -- why? Lisa's sister has bleached blonde hair, freckles, and ivory skin. Her husband is Indian. "I'm not quite with you," I said carefully. "I know it's not obvious," she said, "But it's the proportion of their faces. His mother came up to me at their wedding and said, 'They will be happy because they are the same. Look at them.' And it's true. They have the same features, in the same places, in the same proportions.
Don't Do Nice Things for Them. Let Them Do Nice Things for You
If you do something nice for someone, it makes you feel good on two levels. You feel pleased with yourself and extra-warm toward the person you've just spoiled. To justify the effort or expense, we often over-idealize how wonderful he is to deserve it! End result: we like the person more. When someone does something nice for us, we're pleased. But there are a whole lot of other emotions that come into play -- and they're not all good. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed. There's pressure to live up to being the wonderful person who inspired such a gift/act, not to mention pressure to return the favor. It's all even trickier if the "nice thing" comes from someone you very much like but aren't sure about yet. Got the point? When we're infatuated with someone, we're desperate to do nice things for him. You're much better off letting him spoil you.
Give Them the Eye
Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin set out to see if he could measure love scientifically and achieved it by recording the amount of time lovers spent staring at each other. He discovered that couples who are deeply in love look at each other 75 percent of the time when talking and are slower to look away when someone else dares to intrude. In normal conversation, people look at each other between 30-60 percent of the time. The significance of what's now known as Rubin's Scale is obvious: It's possible to tell how "in love" people are by measuring the amount of time they spend gazing adoringly. Some psychologists still use it during counseling to work out how much affection couples feel for each other. It also happens to be remarkably handy information if you want to make someone fall in love with you. Here's how it works: If you look at someone you like 75 percent of the time when they're talking to you, you trick their brain. The brain knows the last time that someone looked at them that long and often, it meant they were in love. So it thinks OK, I'm obviously in love with this person as well, and starts to release phenylethylamine (PEA). PEA is a chemical cousin to amphetamines and is secreted by the nervous system when we first fall in love. PEA is what makes our palms sweat, our tummies flip over, and our hearts race. The more PEA the person you want has pumping through the bloodstream, the more likely he is to fall in love with you. While you can't honestly force someone to adore you if he's not remotely interested (they won't let you look into their eyes for that long, for a start!), it is entirely possible to kick-start the production of PEA using this technique. Try it. I think you'll be pretty impressed with the results. Give someone the sensation of feeling in love whenever he's with you, and it's not such a huge leap of logic for him to finally decide that he is!
Don't Look Away
There was another crucial finding from Rubin's research: The couples took longer to look away when someone else joined the conversation. Again, if you do this to someone who's not in love with you (yet), you trick his brain into thinking he is, and even more PEA floods into his bloodstream. Relationships expert Leil Lownes calls this technique making "toffee eyes." Simply lock eyes with the person you like and keep them there, even when he has finished talking or someone else joins the conversation. When you eventually do drag your eyes away (three or four seconds later), do it slowly and reluctantly -- as though they're attached by warm toffee. This technique may not sound terribly inspired but, believe me, if done properly it can literally take your breath away. If you're too shy to gaze openly, skip the toffee and think bouncing ball. Look away and at the other person who's joined the conversation, but every time they finish a sentence, let your eyes bounce back to the person you're interested in. This is a checking gesture -- you're checking his reaction to what the speaker is saying -- and lets him know you're more interested in him than the other person.
Practice Pupillometrics
We all know "bedroom eyes" when we see them: it's the look of lust. There's just one thing you need for bedroom eyes: big pupils. According to pupillometrics, the science of pupil study, this is the crucial element we respond to. You can't consciously control your pupils (one reason why people say the eyes don't lie). But you can create the right conditions to inspire large pupils and get the effect. First, reduce light. Our pupils expand when they're robbed of it, one reason why candlelight and dimmer switches are de rigueur in romantic restaurants. It's not just the softening of light that makes our faces appear more attractive, larger pupils also help. Scientists showed two sets of pictures of a woman's face to men. The photograph was identical, except for one thing; the pupils in one set had been doctored to make them larger. When shown the doctored photograph, men judged the woman as twice more attractive than when shown the real photo. It was repeated with a man's face and tested on women and gave the same result. Our pupils also enlarge when we look at something we like. Again, this can be proved using pictures. This time, researchers snuck a picture of a naked woman into a pile of otherwise bland, commonplace photographs then watched men's pupil size when they flicked through them. Without exception, the men's pupils expanded on cue. This means if you're attracted to someone a lot, your pupils are probably already big, black holes. All good. To ensure this is happening or to up the effect of your bedroom eyes, focus on the part of the person you like the most. (On second thought, better make it the next best thing.)
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8:24 PM
well well i found some interesting thing to read =P i dunno if it;s true a not but it sure caught my interest....
18 Body Language Clues That Say He's Interested -- Definitely
He'll serve you an eyebrow flash. When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If they like us back, they raise their eyebrows. The whole thing lasts about a fifth of a second and it happens everywhere in the world -- to everyone regardless of age, race, or class. Lifting our brows pulls the eyes open and allows more light to reflect off the surface, making them look bright, large and inviting. A flash might be easy to miss but they're so reliable, if you do spot one, you may know someone likes you before they've even registered it themselves. Deliberately extend it for up to one second and you've drastically upped the chances of him getting the message you're interested.
His lips part. If he likes what he sees, his lips will automatically part for a moment when your eyes first lock.
His nostrils flare and his face generally "opens". The raised brows, parted lips, flaring nostrils and wide eyes give the whole face a friendly "open" expression.
He'll try to attract your attention. For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a silent prayer that you'll notice the flash of movement. Others turn into Bippo the Clown and become so loud and boisterous, they're practically juggling and doing handstands. Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually means he's trying to stand out from the group. Another giveaway: he'll unconsciously detach from his friends by standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual.
He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel. We all know what these preening gestures mean. They're the equivalent of the female lip lick -- "I want to look good for you."
He'll smooth or mess up his hair. Which gestures he chooses depends on his hairstyle and what's going to make it look more flattering. Guys do this involuntarily and more often than you think. Glance back next time you trot off to the restroom and I bet his hands will be on their way to touching his hair.
His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you're talking. A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means he finds you fascinating. Or completely nuts. Quite frankly, either are preferable to a man who looks at you with a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. That one simply finds you boring.
He'll fiddle with his socks and pull them up. In the old days, men only dressed up on special occasions, and while the suit might have survived months in mothballs, the socks invariably continued to get worn (to death). Hence, why he spent half the night pulling them up, in an attempt to look the part. It's an extension of preening and it's astonishingly accurate. If a guy pulls up or adjusts his socks in your presence, it's an almost 100 percent sign he's interested and trying to look his best.
Everything is erect. Ahem. What I mean is he'll stand with all his muscles pulled tight, to show his body off to best advantage. He'll also stand directly in front of you to show full attention and lean forward to get closer.
He'll let you see him checking out your body. Some experts call it "visual voyaging" -- his eyes take a little cruise around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports. Don't kid yourself: he scanned your body automatically the second he laid eyes on you. The difference here is that he's letting you see him do it. The message: I'm considering you as a sexual partner.
He'll spread his legs while sitting opposite, to give you a crotch display. He's letting you have a good look at what's on offer. Hopefully, he still has his jeans or pants on at the time.
He'll stand with hands on hips. This accentuates his physical size and suggests body confidence. It's also a pointing gesture. We point with our hands at our own best sexual assets and also at the parts of our body where we'd most like to be touched. If he spends the night with his hands on his hips, fingers splayed and pointing downward, he's willing you to look, touch and admire the part he's proudest of. All subconscious, of course. Well, it is in most cases...
He'll play with the buttons on his jacket, buttoning and unbuttoning it. It's a displacement activity (fiddling) because you've made him a little nervous, plus an unconscious desire to remove his clothes. The next stage is to push the jacket open and hold it there by putting his hands on his hips. If he takes it off completely, he's imagining his shoes under your bed.
He'll touch his face a lot, while looking at you. If he's interested, he'll stroke his cheek up and down with the back of his fingers, touch his ears, or rub his chin. It's a combination of nervous excitement, preening and autoerotic touching. When we're attracted to someone, our skin (most noticeably our lips and mouth) become increasingly sensitive to touch and other stimulation. If you smoke, you'll take more drags on your cigarette. If you're drinking, you'll take more sips. You start touching your own mouth more because your lips are ultra sensitive and it feels good. Plus, it plants the idea in the other person's mind that it could be a good idea to kiss you.
He'll start squeezing his glass or can or roll it from side to side, slightly squeezing it as he does so. When men are sexually interested, they start playing with circular objects. Why? They remind him of your breasts: his body is "leaking" what's happening in his subconscious mind.
He'll perch on the edge of his seat to get closer. And if he crosses his legs, the top leg will point in your direction
He'll guide you by putting his arm on your elbow or in the small of your back. The arm guide isn't just good manners and a polite way of guiding you through a crowd; he's making sure he knows exactly where you're going by taking you there. He doesn't want to lose you! It also shows you're being "taken care of" so no other men need volunteer. Along with the arm guide, there'll be lots of accidentally-on-purpose touches.
He'll lend you his coat or sweater. Few guys would be happy to return from the bar to find their girlfriend's evening dress covered by another guy's jacket. Never mind if her teeth were chattering from life-threatening hypothermia. He wants it to be his jacket because it's a protective, sexy, ownership gesture. It says "what's mine is yours," something that's been close to their skin is now close to yours (and vice versa when you give it back). It smelled of him to begin with; it'll smell of you when you return it. Plus, it links you: he has to hang around to get it back.
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18 Body Language Clues That Say He's Interested -- Definitely
He'll serve you an eyebrow flash. When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If they like us back, they raise their eyebrows. The whole thing lasts about a fifth of a second and it happens everywhere in the world -- to everyone regardless of age, race, or class. Lifting our brows pulls the eyes open and allows more light to reflect off the surface, making them look bright, large and inviting. A flash might be easy to miss but they're so reliable, if you do spot one, you may know someone likes you before they've even registered it themselves. Deliberately extend it for up to one second and you've drastically upped the chances of him getting the message you're interested.
His lips part. If he likes what he sees, his lips will automatically part for a moment when your eyes first lock.
His nostrils flare and his face generally "opens". The raised brows, parted lips, flaring nostrils and wide eyes give the whole face a friendly "open" expression.
He'll try to attract your attention. For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a silent prayer that you'll notice the flash of movement. Others turn into Bippo the Clown and become so loud and boisterous, they're practically juggling and doing handstands. Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually means he's trying to stand out from the group. Another giveaway: he'll unconsciously detach from his friends by standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual.
He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel. We all know what these preening gestures mean. They're the equivalent of the female lip lick -- "I want to look good for you."
He'll smooth or mess up his hair. Which gestures he chooses depends on his hairstyle and what's going to make it look more flattering. Guys do this involuntarily and more often than you think. Glance back next time you trot off to the restroom and I bet his hands will be on their way to touching his hair.
His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you're talking. A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means he finds you fascinating. Or completely nuts. Quite frankly, either are preferable to a man who looks at you with a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. That one simply finds you boring.
He'll fiddle with his socks and pull them up. In the old days, men only dressed up on special occasions, and while the suit might have survived months in mothballs, the socks invariably continued to get worn (to death). Hence, why he spent half the night pulling them up, in an attempt to look the part. It's an extension of preening and it's astonishingly accurate. If a guy pulls up or adjusts his socks in your presence, it's an almost 100 percent sign he's interested and trying to look his best.
Everything is erect. Ahem. What I mean is he'll stand with all his muscles pulled tight, to show his body off to best advantage. He'll also stand directly in front of you to show full attention and lean forward to get closer.
He'll let you see him checking out your body. Some experts call it "visual voyaging" -- his eyes take a little cruise around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports. Don't kid yourself: he scanned your body automatically the second he laid eyes on you. The difference here is that he's letting you see him do it. The message: I'm considering you as a sexual partner.
He'll spread his legs while sitting opposite, to give you a crotch display. He's letting you have a good look at what's on offer. Hopefully, he still has his jeans or pants on at the time.
He'll stand with hands on hips. This accentuates his physical size and suggests body confidence. It's also a pointing gesture. We point with our hands at our own best sexual assets and also at the parts of our body where we'd most like to be touched. If he spends the night with his hands on his hips, fingers splayed and pointing downward, he's willing you to look, touch and admire the part he's proudest of. All subconscious, of course. Well, it is in most cases...
He'll play with the buttons on his jacket, buttoning and unbuttoning it. It's a displacement activity (fiddling) because you've made him a little nervous, plus an unconscious desire to remove his clothes. The next stage is to push the jacket open and hold it there by putting his hands on his hips. If he takes it off completely, he's imagining his shoes under your bed.
He'll touch his face a lot, while looking at you. If he's interested, he'll stroke his cheek up and down with the back of his fingers, touch his ears, or rub his chin. It's a combination of nervous excitement, preening and autoerotic touching. When we're attracted to someone, our skin (most noticeably our lips and mouth) become increasingly sensitive to touch and other stimulation. If you smoke, you'll take more drags on your cigarette. If you're drinking, you'll take more sips. You start touching your own mouth more because your lips are ultra sensitive and it feels good. Plus, it plants the idea in the other person's mind that it could be a good idea to kiss you.
He'll start squeezing his glass or can or roll it from side to side, slightly squeezing it as he does so. When men are sexually interested, they start playing with circular objects. Why? They remind him of your breasts: his body is "leaking" what's happening in his subconscious mind.
He'll perch on the edge of his seat to get closer. And if he crosses his legs, the top leg will point in your direction
He'll guide you by putting his arm on your elbow or in the small of your back. The arm guide isn't just good manners and a polite way of guiding you through a crowd; he's making sure he knows exactly where you're going by taking you there. He doesn't want to lose you! It also shows you're being "taken care of" so no other men need volunteer. Along with the arm guide, there'll be lots of accidentally-on-purpose touches.
He'll lend you his coat or sweater. Few guys would be happy to return from the bar to find their girlfriend's evening dress covered by another guy's jacket. Never mind if her teeth were chattering from life-threatening hypothermia. He wants it to be his jacket because it's a protective, sexy, ownership gesture. It says "what's mine is yours," something that's been close to their skin is now close to yours (and vice versa when you give it back). It smelled of him to begin with; it'll smell of you when you return it. Plus, it links you: he has to hang around to get it back.
LOL THIS IS COOL WAY COOL :D
8:16 PM
hmm yah i am fat seriously clothes just hide them la ...wear a bikini i dun even dare think of it okie....zzzz maybe i should really get serious on slimming down ... sigh if only i had extrim dot dot...
7:08 PM
Erm kind of it was like so true i felt that i just had to post it up...
The Virgo partner
Virgo's sensual needs are often deep and powerful. Their sensitivity and delicacy make them aware of another person's needs in a very acute way which hastier signs don't notice. But Virgos can take a long time to really fall in love. They're not easily fooled by a pretty face or a beautiful body. They think too much and know too much.
The Virgo partner needs to communicate, and work is terribly important. Virgos frequently identify with their jobs and validate themselves according to how well they fulfil their own expectations. If you don't share their interest in work, or show a willingness to talk about the things that are important to them, Virgo can get pretty bored with even the most sexually exciting partner. Emotion and sexuality aren't enough to hold a Virgo's heart. There has to be a meeting of minds.
Virgos like instruction manuals. They'll try anything if it's explained in clear, easy-to- understand steps. Take the instructions away and they often panic. They always read the handbook first, and this makes them terrifyingly competent in almost any sphere of life they choose to explore.
Unfortunately there aren't any instruction manuals for how to deal with love and passion (although there are lots that pretend to be). It's not surprising that so many Virgos are terrified of what they perceive as the dangerous lunacy of falling in love. You'll find many apparently cool and unromantic Virgos, sexually skilled but emotionally withdrawn, who tell you that doing it every night is good for you, but who won't ever utter that scary four- letter word beginning with "L".
Wild moonlit love-at-first-sight encounters aren't Virgo's style. They observe the world too much to take such encounters seriously. And they don't like gambling. Gambling with instantaneous passion can be hurtful and disillusioning. Some Virgos go cold and shut out anyone to whom they're too attracted, because they mistrust anything sudden, uncontrollable or unexplainable.
Of course, you'll sometimes find a really wild Virgo who seems to break the mould. But look closely. You'll usually find that their heart hasn't really been touched. Love, for Virgo, is something that takes time, knowledge, and careful nurturing. In the end, they'll choose the reliable over the flamboyant.
Virgos are realists. You can see this in their tastes, their furnishings and their working life. The useful, the safe, the knowable, the things of quality, are always preferable to the gaudy, the temporarily fashionable, the unreliable, the "cheap and cheerful". It can be a terrible bore or, tempered with a little humour and a sense of fun, it can give a quality of understanding, warmth and wisdom which is powerfully magnetic and highly attractive. The operative word here is "fun". The Virgo partner may need your help in learning the word.
Earthbound Virgos often starve themselves of sheer joy in life. They want it badly, but they're afraid they'll have to pay too high a price for it. Virgo people can often be seen with long lists of what must be done each day. Play is not included on the list. Virgos often choose a partner who embodies all the frivolity, unpredictability and "selfishness" (this is a favourite Virgo word) they won't allow themselves.
If you're the dashing, unreliable fiery type who seems to have a secret pact with the gods and actually gambles with life rather than displaying due caution, you're likely to be a magnet for a Virgo partner. That doesn't mean it's a union made in heaven. Either the Virgo partner loosens up and reveals that wonderfully poetic secret soul - in which case you're in for a delightful future together - or else he tries to play Pygmalion and chips away at you to get you to become more "mature". Then comes the final scenario of you spitting fire like a dragon and booking a solo flight to Goa because you're fed up with always being nagged and criticised.
Relationships are rarely smooth and easy for Virgo, unless they play terribly safe and find themselves another earthy type who fits into that orderly Virgoan universe. But then, sadly, they're always a bit bored, and life's a little dreary, and they feel they've somehow missed the boat. The Virgo partner can be the gentlest, kindest, cleverest and most genuinely helpful of mates. And yes, he can be passionate too. All he has to do is learn, every now and then, to be a child, and recognise that what is useful is not always mutually exclusive of what is alive and meaningful and full of joy.
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The Virgo man
Some of the most admirable human qualities make their appearance in the Virgo man. One of these is his desire to be of service. He's generous if you need support, advice, or material assistance. Always reasonable, he'll draw you out about your difficulties, and he loves to offer the wisdom of his own experience. Give him a problem and he'll attack it like a chess game, and usually his detached insights are sharp and sound. There's a sensible, sane feeling about this man.
The Virgo man rarely pretends to be anything other than himself. Also, this man will actually talk to you as an equal. On the other hand, his self-control and coolness can be irritating and even hurtful. He may hang up his coat carefully before he kisses you, because order must come first. Sometimes he's horribly socially sensitive, and won't show affection in public because "someone" might notice that he actually has passions. If he's an extreme type, everything might be scheduled, including sex. If this starts getting to you, remember that it isn't easy to be a Virgo man in our culture.
This sign is sensitive and vulnerable, and Virgo men often struggle to be tough, cool and in control. Virgos hate having their privacy invaded without an invitation (and that means emotional as well as physical). If you want to live comfortably with such firm boundaries, you need a sense of humour and some boundaries of your own. It's not really about keeping you out. It's about keeping his own emotions in.
What makes this complex and sometimes insufferable temperament loveable is that the Virgo man, if you tell him the truth calmly and clearly, will always listen. It's one of his most endearing qualities. If he's hurt you or been oblivious to your feelings, try articulating it. Quietly. He'll usually listen, apologise and try to do something about it. If you scream and shout or ooze black atmospheres, he'll withdraw so fast that you'll think you've moved to Antarctica. If you're the really combustible type, try a more resilient and less highly strung sign.
This man simply can't take angry explosions and tempestuous scenes, or long weeping sessions with lots of soggy handkerchiefs. You'll often see the Virgo man fidgeting, biting his fingernails, folding his serviette into tiny fanlike shapes, shredding his lettuce, and doing other little things that betray the highly strung nervous system of this sign. He also tends to somatise his inner tensions, so be prepared to hear about the headaches, skin rashes, muscle tics, stomach upsets, and aching joints.
Virgos can be hypochondriacs when they're stressed out. Since the Virgo man will usually overwork himself anyway, emotional pressure doesn't help. He needs lots of rest, play and nature to heal him. Usually he can't be bothered to make time for all that, since that inevitable list always has "work" at the top. So the onus falls on you to cajole, reason or drag him to a place where, after his initial whingeing, he might even discover that it's quite pleasant to sit in the sun and do nothing.
For all these reasons, the Virgo man isn't always every person's dream of the perfect mate. He has a sensitive, finely tuned and complex nature. He's rarely aggressive, and he lets difficulties nag and nag inside before he takes direct action. He isn't really a Don Juan, although there are some fairly good imitiation Don Juans floating about in the form of terribly insecure Virgo men trying to pretend to be Ariens or Sagittarians.
Trust and good communication are necessary for him to show the more mystical, intuitive, imaginative side of himself, and his delightfully ironic sense of humour won't emerge unless he knows he's in attentive company. Hopefully you didn't choose him to provide you with security, for if so, you're making a sad mistake. Although he's earthy and realistic, he's not interested in playing Sugar Daddy. He's too fluid and changeable and mercurial to tolerate being someone else's Rock of Gibraltar.
Appreciate his intelligence, his wit, his cynical wisdom, his craftsmanship, his shrewdness, his kindness, his sensitivity and his integrity. For those who respect intelligence, real dyed-in-the-soul refinement and grace, and the mysterious charisma of inner solitude, the Virgo man makes those more flamboyant types seem pretty boorish in comparison.
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Quite true leh he seems pretty caught up with his work.. =\ LOl hmm Okie enough abt other pple =PpPpp me !!
The Sagittarius partner
Sagittarians can exhibit a certain reluctance when it comes to things like marital vows. Since this sign's great love is for future possibilities, they'll quite naturally balk when they're asked to give up all those possibilities for one reality for the rest of their life. "'Til death do us part" is a phrase which resonates powerfully because of the word "death", which is what absolute commitment may seem like to the ever-questing Centaur. This is especially true of the Centaur who's already been burned in the days when her youthful ideals were untarnished.
Deep in every Sagittarian soul is a wanderer. That doesn't mean Sagittarius is incapable of a lasting bond. That endless quest for meaning can be lived within the Sagittarian's own soul, and not necessarily through a series of idealised loves. But even with this more philosophical kind of Sagittarian, it's not a good idea to play the jealous, suspicious lover. It won't help at all, and it may drive your Sagittarian straight into more open, less clinging arms. "this is so true OKie I SWEAR!!" Sagittarians can be deeply responsible, but they don't like being reminded by other people of their responsibilities. If you can't offer love with light, generous hands, then find yourself a needier, more homebound sign.
Sagittarians, being idealists, are easily bewitched by their romantic fantasies. Any "flings" begun on this basis usually mean very little, and if Sagittarians wander, they usually turn around and come home again. You don't have to be there waiting, but you may need to take the tolerant, long-term view rather than nursing spite. Sagittarians both long for and fear stability, but it's more likely they'll long for it if it isn't strapped to their shoulders like a millstone. They're driven by a vague anxiety about their mortality, and they have difficulty living in a body at all because it reminds them of their mortal limits.
Their visions of love are likely to be so grandiose and mythic that you can never hope to match the vision. You need both confidence and humour to let your Sagittarian partner pursue the unobtainable and get disillusioned by it. Of course there are lots of Sagittarians who are fully willing and able to make a commitment in relationship. But they still don't like being caged, and that means psychological as well as sexual caging.
Learn to join their wild imaginative flights, or else quietly get on with your own life. But never, never nag or demean those dreams. It's tragic to see a Centaur bound and gagged by someone who can't appreciate their freedom-loving spirit. Emotional manipulation and the crushing of their dreams may keep your Sagittarian housebound, but deep down, you will have lost them.
Sagittarians need to believe in something, and they need goals, even if the goals aren't realistic. Reminding a Sagittarius that her dream is silly or childish is the best way of driving her off after a new arrow. But then, if you didn't believe a little in those dreams, you wouldn't be with a Sagittarian anyway, would you?
Sagittarius can be the most generous of souls, both materially and emotionally. They don't like demands, but they can surprise and enchant loved ones with their enthusiasm and magnanimity. They can be self-centred and insensitive, but it's never out of malice or coldness. You have to simply tell them, without ten years of covert resentment brewing beneath the surface, "You forgot that it's my birthday."
Sagittarians believe in democracy, so don't try the "Do it because I say so" routine, because you'll just get laughed at or abandoned. Sagittarius needs and deeply appreciates a friend who can share those wonderful dreams, and who will be there when she lands with a bump (which she inevitably does, sooner or later). That isn't really a great deal to ask, when you think of all the warmth, enthusiasm, generosity, humour and inspiration the Sagittarian partner can offer. After all, what are friends for?
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The Sagittarius woman
Never assume that all explorers, mountain-climbers and world travellers are male Sagittarians. The true female Centaur is as restless, as hungry for experience, as eager to explore the fascinating carnival of life as her male counterpart. This woman needs personal freedom to an extraordinary degree, and she's not famous either for her readiness to commit herself or for her enthusiasm about domestic responsibilities. She may be happier spending a lifetime without either. She's as likely to have a child out of wedlock and happily raise it as a travelling companion as she is to ensconce herself behind secure walls.
Walls, for any Sagittarian are like the proverbial red flag for a bull. Any career which allows space, travel, freedom of movement and opportunities for new contacts pleases the Sagittarian woman. And the female Centaur who isn't career-orientated still needs these things. Failing everything else, she'll join an ashram or become a socialite, throwing the best parties and meeting the most exciting people. You'll often find the Sagittarius woman involved in a cause of some kind, because her astute vision and awareness of larger patterns in life give her a strong interest in and concern for human welfare and evolution.
Sagittarian women can be very opinionated. They're always thinking about something, chewing over it, reading about it, discussing it. Convictions are terribly important to this woman, although they may change regularly. This is a fluid, flexible sign. Sometimes you'll see the more spiritual side of the sign in evidence in the Sagittarian woman's predilection for religion, myth, depth psychology, or various assorted esoteric or occult subjects. There's a love of the unknown and the challenging, the magical and the unexplained.
She also has a strong sense of fun and humour. Tact may not be in abundant supply. Don't expect diplomatic flattery. More likely she'll deliver a verbal punch between the eyes, not because she's cruel, but because she has a tendency to speak before she thinks and doesn't register in time that you've collapsed on the floor. She's usually right, too, which can be infuriating. She may not be strong on logic, but her sharp intuition sees right through posturing and hypocrisy.
This romantic, high-spirited woman can be pretty skittish about being tied down. If she's been badly hurt when young, she may spend a lifetime pursuing a romantic dream, forever seeking the future and avoiding the present. More often, disillusionment will mature her and help her to accept the limitations of human reality.
Don't try to possess her. And don't tell her to do something. Ask. Nicely. The dramatic exit and the slammed door aren't just for effect. She probably already bought her flight tickets weeks before. Sagittarian women need to communicate, and they need to be listened to. If you're after the quiet, docile type, forget it. Many Sagittarian women are great talkers. Some go on too long and become bores. But more likely she'll be fascinating and inspiring. She's a conversational animal who needs an interested, communicative partner. Most important, she needs to be in love. Without a belief in love, her spirit will wilt.
The Sagittarius woman is in love with life itself. Life is to be lived, not nailed down, and although she's likely to take quite a few romantic knocks (not least because her independence and craving for freedom may drive away a few frightened partners), she never loses her faith in the future. This woman is an optimist, and a believer in life's fundamental goodness and meaning. Sagittarian faith is infectious. But unlike most infectious things, it isn't harmful. Quite the opposite: it enriches life.
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The Virgo partner
Virgo's sensual needs are often deep and powerful. Their sensitivity and delicacy make them aware of another person's needs in a very acute way which hastier signs don't notice. But Virgos can take a long time to really fall in love. They're not easily fooled by a pretty face or a beautiful body. They think too much and know too much.
The Virgo partner needs to communicate, and work is terribly important. Virgos frequently identify with their jobs and validate themselves according to how well they fulfil their own expectations. If you don't share their interest in work, or show a willingness to talk about the things that are important to them, Virgo can get pretty bored with even the most sexually exciting partner. Emotion and sexuality aren't enough to hold a Virgo's heart. There has to be a meeting of minds.
Virgos like instruction manuals. They'll try anything if it's explained in clear, easy-to- understand steps. Take the instructions away and they often panic. They always read the handbook first, and this makes them terrifyingly competent in almost any sphere of life they choose to explore.
Unfortunately there aren't any instruction manuals for how to deal with love and passion (although there are lots that pretend to be). It's not surprising that so many Virgos are terrified of what they perceive as the dangerous lunacy of falling in love. You'll find many apparently cool and unromantic Virgos, sexually skilled but emotionally withdrawn, who tell you that doing it every night is good for you, but who won't ever utter that scary four- letter word beginning with "L".
Wild moonlit love-at-first-sight encounters aren't Virgo's style. They observe the world too much to take such encounters seriously. And they don't like gambling. Gambling with instantaneous passion can be hurtful and disillusioning. Some Virgos go cold and shut out anyone to whom they're too attracted, because they mistrust anything sudden, uncontrollable or unexplainable.
Of course, you'll sometimes find a really wild Virgo who seems to break the mould. But look closely. You'll usually find that their heart hasn't really been touched. Love, for Virgo, is something that takes time, knowledge, and careful nurturing. In the end, they'll choose the reliable over the flamboyant.
Virgos are realists. You can see this in their tastes, their furnishings and their working life. The useful, the safe, the knowable, the things of quality, are always preferable to the gaudy, the temporarily fashionable, the unreliable, the "cheap and cheerful". It can be a terrible bore or, tempered with a little humour and a sense of fun, it can give a quality of understanding, warmth and wisdom which is powerfully magnetic and highly attractive. The operative word here is "fun". The Virgo partner may need your help in learning the word.
Earthbound Virgos often starve themselves of sheer joy in life. They want it badly, but they're afraid they'll have to pay too high a price for it. Virgo people can often be seen with long lists of what must be done each day. Play is not included on the list. Virgos often choose a partner who embodies all the frivolity, unpredictability and "selfishness" (this is a favourite Virgo word) they won't allow themselves.
If you're the dashing, unreliable fiery type who seems to have a secret pact with the gods and actually gambles with life rather than displaying due caution, you're likely to be a magnet for a Virgo partner. That doesn't mean it's a union made in heaven. Either the Virgo partner loosens up and reveals that wonderfully poetic secret soul - in which case you're in for a delightful future together - or else he tries to play Pygmalion and chips away at you to get you to become more "mature". Then comes the final scenario of you spitting fire like a dragon and booking a solo flight to Goa because you're fed up with always being nagged and criticised.
Relationships are rarely smooth and easy for Virgo, unless they play terribly safe and find themselves another earthy type who fits into that orderly Virgoan universe. But then, sadly, they're always a bit bored, and life's a little dreary, and they feel they've somehow missed the boat. The Virgo partner can be the gentlest, kindest, cleverest and most genuinely helpful of mates. And yes, he can be passionate too. All he has to do is learn, every now and then, to be a child, and recognise that what is useful is not always mutually exclusive of what is alive and meaningful and full of joy.
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The Virgo man
Some of the most admirable human qualities make their appearance in the Virgo man. One of these is his desire to be of service. He's generous if you need support, advice, or material assistance. Always reasonable, he'll draw you out about your difficulties, and he loves to offer the wisdom of his own experience. Give him a problem and he'll attack it like a chess game, and usually his detached insights are sharp and sound. There's a sensible, sane feeling about this man.
The Virgo man rarely pretends to be anything other than himself. Also, this man will actually talk to you as an equal. On the other hand, his self-control and coolness can be irritating and even hurtful. He may hang up his coat carefully before he kisses you, because order must come first. Sometimes he's horribly socially sensitive, and won't show affection in public because "someone" might notice that he actually has passions. If he's an extreme type, everything might be scheduled, including sex. If this starts getting to you, remember that it isn't easy to be a Virgo man in our culture.
This sign is sensitive and vulnerable, and Virgo men often struggle to be tough, cool and in control. Virgos hate having their privacy invaded without an invitation (and that means emotional as well as physical). If you want to live comfortably with such firm boundaries, you need a sense of humour and some boundaries of your own. It's not really about keeping you out. It's about keeping his own emotions in.
What makes this complex and sometimes insufferable temperament loveable is that the Virgo man, if you tell him the truth calmly and clearly, will always listen. It's one of his most endearing qualities. If he's hurt you or been oblivious to your feelings, try articulating it. Quietly. He'll usually listen, apologise and try to do something about it. If you scream and shout or ooze black atmospheres, he'll withdraw so fast that you'll think you've moved to Antarctica. If you're the really combustible type, try a more resilient and less highly strung sign.
This man simply can't take angry explosions and tempestuous scenes, or long weeping sessions with lots of soggy handkerchiefs. You'll often see the Virgo man fidgeting, biting his fingernails, folding his serviette into tiny fanlike shapes, shredding his lettuce, and doing other little things that betray the highly strung nervous system of this sign. He also tends to somatise his inner tensions, so be prepared to hear about the headaches, skin rashes, muscle tics, stomach upsets, and aching joints.
Virgos can be hypochondriacs when they're stressed out. Since the Virgo man will usually overwork himself anyway, emotional pressure doesn't help. He needs lots of rest, play and nature to heal him. Usually he can't be bothered to make time for all that, since that inevitable list always has "work" at the top. So the onus falls on you to cajole, reason or drag him to a place where, after his initial whingeing, he might even discover that it's quite pleasant to sit in the sun and do nothing.
For all these reasons, the Virgo man isn't always every person's dream of the perfect mate. He has a sensitive, finely tuned and complex nature. He's rarely aggressive, and he lets difficulties nag and nag inside before he takes direct action. He isn't really a Don Juan, although there are some fairly good imitiation Don Juans floating about in the form of terribly insecure Virgo men trying to pretend to be Ariens or Sagittarians.
Trust and good communication are necessary for him to show the more mystical, intuitive, imaginative side of himself, and his delightfully ironic sense of humour won't emerge unless he knows he's in attentive company. Hopefully you didn't choose him to provide you with security, for if so, you're making a sad mistake. Although he's earthy and realistic, he's not interested in playing Sugar Daddy. He's too fluid and changeable and mercurial to tolerate being someone else's Rock of Gibraltar.
Appreciate his intelligence, his wit, his cynical wisdom, his craftsmanship, his shrewdness, his kindness, his sensitivity and his integrity. For those who respect intelligence, real dyed-in-the-soul refinement and grace, and the mysterious charisma of inner solitude, the Virgo man makes those more flamboyant types seem pretty boorish in comparison.
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Quite true leh he seems pretty caught up with his work.. =\ LOl hmm Okie enough abt other pple =PpPpp me !!
The Sagittarius partner
Sagittarians can exhibit a certain reluctance when it comes to things like marital vows. Since this sign's great love is for future possibilities, they'll quite naturally balk when they're asked to give up all those possibilities for one reality for the rest of their life. "'Til death do us part" is a phrase which resonates powerfully because of the word "death", which is what absolute commitment may seem like to the ever-questing Centaur. This is especially true of the Centaur who's already been burned in the days when her youthful ideals were untarnished.
Deep in every Sagittarian soul is a wanderer. That doesn't mean Sagittarius is incapable of a lasting bond. That endless quest for meaning can be lived within the Sagittarian's own soul, and not necessarily through a series of idealised loves. But even with this more philosophical kind of Sagittarian, it's not a good idea to play the jealous, suspicious lover. It won't help at all, and it may drive your Sagittarian straight into more open, less clinging arms. "this is so true OKie I SWEAR!!" Sagittarians can be deeply responsible, but they don't like being reminded by other people of their responsibilities. If you can't offer love with light, generous hands, then find yourself a needier, more homebound sign.
Sagittarians, being idealists, are easily bewitched by their romantic fantasies. Any "flings" begun on this basis usually mean very little, and if Sagittarians wander, they usually turn around and come home again. You don't have to be there waiting, but you may need to take the tolerant, long-term view rather than nursing spite. Sagittarians both long for and fear stability, but it's more likely they'll long for it if it isn't strapped to their shoulders like a millstone. They're driven by a vague anxiety about their mortality, and they have difficulty living in a body at all because it reminds them of their mortal limits.
Their visions of love are likely to be so grandiose and mythic that you can never hope to match the vision. You need both confidence and humour to let your Sagittarian partner pursue the unobtainable and get disillusioned by it. Of course there are lots of Sagittarians who are fully willing and able to make a commitment in relationship. But they still don't like being caged, and that means psychological as well as sexual caging.
Learn to join their wild imaginative flights, or else quietly get on with your own life. But never, never nag or demean those dreams. It's tragic to see a Centaur bound and gagged by someone who can't appreciate their freedom-loving spirit. Emotional manipulation and the crushing of their dreams may keep your Sagittarian housebound, but deep down, you will have lost them.
Sagittarians need to believe in something, and they need goals, even if the goals aren't realistic. Reminding a Sagittarius that her dream is silly or childish is the best way of driving her off after a new arrow. But then, if you didn't believe a little in those dreams, you wouldn't be with a Sagittarian anyway, would you?
Sagittarius can be the most generous of souls, both materially and emotionally. They don't like demands, but they can surprise and enchant loved ones with their enthusiasm and magnanimity. They can be self-centred and insensitive, but it's never out of malice or coldness. You have to simply tell them, without ten years of covert resentment brewing beneath the surface, "You forgot that it's my birthday."
Sagittarians believe in democracy, so don't try the "Do it because I say so" routine, because you'll just get laughed at or abandoned. Sagittarius needs and deeply appreciates a friend who can share those wonderful dreams, and who will be there when she lands with a bump (which she inevitably does, sooner or later). That isn't really a great deal to ask, when you think of all the warmth, enthusiasm, generosity, humour and inspiration the Sagittarian partner can offer. After all, what are friends for?
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The Sagittarius woman
Never assume that all explorers, mountain-climbers and world travellers are male Sagittarians. The true female Centaur is as restless, as hungry for experience, as eager to explore the fascinating carnival of life as her male counterpart. This woman needs personal freedom to an extraordinary degree, and she's not famous either for her readiness to commit herself or for her enthusiasm about domestic responsibilities. She may be happier spending a lifetime without either. She's as likely to have a child out of wedlock and happily raise it as a travelling companion as she is to ensconce herself behind secure walls.
Walls, for any Sagittarian are like the proverbial red flag for a bull. Any career which allows space, travel, freedom of movement and opportunities for new contacts pleases the Sagittarian woman. And the female Centaur who isn't career-orientated still needs these things. Failing everything else, she'll join an ashram or become a socialite, throwing the best parties and meeting the most exciting people. You'll often find the Sagittarius woman involved in a cause of some kind, because her astute vision and awareness of larger patterns in life give her a strong interest in and concern for human welfare and evolution.
Sagittarian women can be very opinionated. They're always thinking about something, chewing over it, reading about it, discussing it. Convictions are terribly important to this woman, although they may change regularly. This is a fluid, flexible sign. Sometimes you'll see the more spiritual side of the sign in evidence in the Sagittarian woman's predilection for religion, myth, depth psychology, or various assorted esoteric or occult subjects. There's a love of the unknown and the challenging, the magical and the unexplained.
She also has a strong sense of fun and humour. Tact may not be in abundant supply. Don't expect diplomatic flattery. More likely she'll deliver a verbal punch between the eyes, not because she's cruel, but because she has a tendency to speak before she thinks and doesn't register in time that you've collapsed on the floor. She's usually right, too, which can be infuriating. She may not be strong on logic, but her sharp intuition sees right through posturing and hypocrisy.
This romantic, high-spirited woman can be pretty skittish about being tied down. If she's been badly hurt when young, she may spend a lifetime pursuing a romantic dream, forever seeking the future and avoiding the present. More often, disillusionment will mature her and help her to accept the limitations of human reality.
Don't try to possess her. And don't tell her to do something. Ask. Nicely. The dramatic exit and the slammed door aren't just for effect. She probably already bought her flight tickets weeks before. Sagittarian women need to communicate, and they need to be listened to. If you're after the quiet, docile type, forget it. Many Sagittarian women are great talkers. Some go on too long and become bores. But more likely she'll be fascinating and inspiring. She's a conversational animal who needs an interested, communicative partner. Most important, she needs to be in love. Without a belief in love, her spirit will wilt.
The Sagittarius woman is in love with life itself. Life is to be lived, not nailed down, and although she's likely to take quite a few romantic knocks (not least because her independence and craving for freedom may drive away a few frightened partners), she never loses her faith in the future. This woman is an optimist, and a believer in life's fundamental goodness and meaning. Sagittarian faith is infectious. But unlike most infectious things, it isn't harmful. Quite the opposite: it enriches life.
Well Well =P
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